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    Grrr so I awoke this morning to my 2 eldest having a punch up. They are 12.5 and 10. They've had the occasional hit before, as siblings do, but not like this. My sweet little DD even let out some pretty nasty swear words! And my youngest child witnessed all this and it upset him.

    Soooo I have spoken to them all, discussed it all together, reiterated our family rules, they have apologised etc etc. But I told them they have to think about a punishment, and that I will think as well and that we will decide on punishment together.
    I think they need a 'punishment' but also I'm wanting something to try and bring them some 'love' to each other.

    Any ideas?
    I am particularly keen to hear from parents of older kids that have been through this before. Or if this happened in your childhood and what your parents did.

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    When ever my brother and I fought we had to write a letter to each other with a list of things we loved about each other.

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    I'll preface this by saying I don't have kids yet! but when we used to do this kind of thing as kids our parents used to "punish" us by giving us a chore or task to do. together. that way you've got the "punishment" aspect by making them do a chore they'd probably rather not have to do but have to use teamwork and co-operate together to get it done.

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    yep when I fought with my sisters the punishment was always a joint chore of some kind

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    Thanks, I've used all your ideas!
    They have a list of chores that they need to do together tonight and tomorrow, they need to cook dinner for DS2 and I (and clean up), they have to write a nice letter to each other and they have to read each others favourite chapter book to them!

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