I'm not pregnant, but in late 2008, I hope to TTC. If all goes well, this would mean that DD would be 4-ish when I'd give birth to my 2nd child.
I'm hoping very much for a VBAC, and am intent on pretty much 100% refusing caesarean on the basis of "just in case." (I had my first c-sec as a "just in case" thing... "just in case she dies from being overdue." ). So hopefully, I'll be birthing vaginally, in a hospital (not interested in homebirth, and birth centres are often not too VBAC-friendly).
I was thinking about whether or not I should bring DD in to the birthing room when I give birth. She'll only be young, so I wouldn't want ot frighten her... but at the same time, I want her to experience the whole birthing thing... to see how positive and natural it is... so that hopefully, when she's an adult and having babies, she'll trust in her body's ability to have a VB and go for it without (too much) worry.
My question is, would a 4-year-old be too young to witness such an event? Would her being there inhibit me, or somewhat relax me? I mean, I wonder if I'll try to relax more for her sake (so I don't scare her with all of my crazy yelling and screaming), but would that help or hinder me?
Do you think it would be a good idea, or a bad one?