Open-minded but yet unwilling to see that not every situation is black and white and maybe somebody doesn't deserve to be driven to suicide? Hmmmmm......
It's probably easy for me to say I would forgive DH, because I genuinely can't imagine him cheating. But I think he's a genuinely good person and I know my depression and anxiety is a massive strain on our relationship. That doesn't mean I think if he cheated it would be my fault but it does mean I would see his cheating as a symptom of something bigger going on with us rather than him just being a bad guy and that's why I would be willing to see if we could fix it. If it was then made public and/or made him feel so hopeless he took his life, that would break my heart far, far more. Somebody taking control of my life and some need for revenge that has nothing to do with them is so, so wrong. How can that not be seen?
Fwiw, I am completely willing and open to learning about all perspectives. To question those perspectives on a thread that is evidently by its title a discussion topic is not a sign of being narrow minded.
I'm disappointed to have read personal attacks on another thread. I try extremely hard not to ever resort to negative comments about other hubbers, no matter how passionately I may feel or try to express myself.
But to suggest the hackers are responsible for ruining lives and the suicides (as some have in this thread) is misleading. They might have played a part - but no more than the cheaters themselves played when they had he affairs. Whose to say the cheaters wouldn't have hurt themselves when their spouse eventually found out via another way down the track?
Nothing justifies the hackers actions but I think we need to be careful about giving the cheaters immunity and assigning the hackers full blame for ruining lives and suicides.
Think back to some of the 'immoral' things you may have done in your past and imagine if that information was posted on the Internet for the world to see, forever, along with your email, home address and credit card details.
I haven't cheated on my partner but I've done stuff in my youth that I'm not proud of and would be gutted and ashamed if the 'moral police' decided the world should have this information.
I do have symphony for the cheaters (and their families) who may have cheated a while back during a rough patch in their marriage and the relationship had since been repaired. In these situations is it not better for the secret to remain hidden for the sake of everyone?
I think it's not just about what's right and wrong - it's also about what course of action taken at the present time results in the best outcome.
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