But here is my opinion.
It's not about *me* feeling sorry for anyone. But since you asked, why can't I feel sorry for everyone? Maybe they didn't have guilty consciences. Maybe their email had been put in maliciously, they couldn't defend themselves, they were looking at losing their jobs (as would be the case in the military in U.S. from my understanding) and marriages. Maybe they couldn't afford counselling. Maybe they were 'scum' as you put it. No one knows.
Someone I was very close to commit suicide. Before she did, she had done some exceptionally sh!tty things to a number of people. All of those people were at her funeral, all were devastated, and I know that all would have gladly forgiven her if they knew it could bring her back.
My personal world view is hate the sin, love the sinner. There is very little I have heard about in the world where I would think a person deserves to die for their (legal but maybe immoral) choices, let alone be so ashamed as to take their own lives.
And I tell you what, people who were 'scum' and cheated still might have children to foster a relationship with, still might have had a chance of reconciling some kind of friendly relationship with their spouse when they dust died down and the pain dissipated. Some people may be hurt but could still find it within themselves to offer forgiveness and move on over time. Of course I feel sympathy for what the innocent people are going through, but I feel more sadness knowing that for these families there is now absolutely no chance of that ever happening - children and grandchildren growing up without parents, no closure.
Suicide hurts the people left behind more than can be imagined, and I fail to see that this is a satisfying outcome.
I know that to some people cheating is absolutely unforgivable, and I respect that view. But to imply that suicide is a worthy result of this whole saga is taking it too far. In my opinion.
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I don't honestly believe anyone whose email address was put in maliciously would kill themselves over this. if your conscience is clear, why would you kill yourself.
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I believe that I wouldn't leave DH if he cheated, maybe I would but we've been through so much that I believe ii would be able to forgive, eventually. Even if I did leave him, would I ever wanted our private life made public like this or for him to be driven to the point of suicide? Never. Why would you ever want anybody to feel that bad, to the point that they cease to exist?
People are killing themselves over this, step back and really think about it.
The world isnt black and white, no one is perfect, people cheat, so be it.
Exposing these people who cheat to the world, ruining their lives, their families, ruining innocent people's lives is so not worth it.
I can believe some people off here saying these people deserve what ever they get.
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