We've given up sleeping here apparently. DS has decided sleep is for the weak and we just won't be doing it anymore at all. No naps, no bedtime. 😳
ScubaGal. My 5 month old DD has gone back to sh!tty day sleeping. Up for 12.5hrs today and slept a total of 2hrs10minutes 😁😁 I have no answers only sympathy. I can actually handle broken night sleep much better than these crappy day sleeps.
From four months onwards it was 3,3,2 but easy to feed to sleep and easy to resettle, no trouble at all.
The last two months though we have had a run of every single thing. First teeth came through just before five months, then a cold, then another bad cold and now the six month immunisations and somehow now it's a massive fight to get to sleep, and he won't nap. Like at all.
He had done some random longer naps of 1.5 hrs and even a bizarre 2 hr nap on Sunday but mostly he will only nap 40 min in the day and where he used to have four naps a day and then three a day after about 4.5months this last fortnight he won't have any or if he falls asleep he's up again in ten or twenty minutes.
I'm just sick of trying so hard and feeling like a failure.
I don't know what I want. I try different things but patting and shushing just p!sses him off and I actually can't rock or hold him to sleep anymore because he's too heavy for me (9.7kg) to put down gently.
We started co sleeping just to help me cope using a side car but I feel like it's making him wake even more.
I feel people's pain. My little man decided yesterday and today that he would do short sleeps (20 mins) while we were out. He was up for 4 hrs before a 20 min nap. When we got home he slept for 1hr10mins. Last night he crashed out at 6.20pm only to wake at 11pm and then 3.30am.
Today hasn't been much better - slept for 45 mins and then up for 4 hrs before crashing out for 1hr this afternoon. Bedtime was crap today with him waking looking for more milk an hour after the previous bottle. Finally went to sleep at 8pm so here's hoping he sleeps tonight.
@ScubaGal, we had a similar situation develop here it improved slightly at 6 months, then got progressively worse. It has improved again... but I don't think it had anything to do with what I've been trying to do. It's not consistent at all, but on a good night I'll only get up twice, one for a feed, and straight back to sleep, and the other just a hand on the back to help him resettle. On bad nights I'm up 4 - 6 times, and one of those is for at least 1.5 hours.
I've found that the more upset I get about his sleep, the worse it seems to get. Then he gets more and more overtired, and the cycle continues. Around 8.5 months DS suddenly started to work out his naps by himself. I know what you mean about feeling like a failure, but you really shouldn't. You can give them the best opportunity to fall asleep, but only bub can choose to sleep. If bub won't sleep, at least some down time in the cot with the curtains closed and lights off will give you both a break.
I'm sure you've probably tried everything... Have you tried just resting your hand on his back, or gently stroking his head? Those seem to work best for my DS at the moment.
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