I am trying to bring DS up to say 'please stop' and 'no I don't like it' when others are crossing his boundaries. I've worked hard on it because I think it's such an important part of child protection.
So, for example, if we are having a tickle fight and he asks me to stop then I will, no questions asked.
But I'm entering a stage when he says 'please stop' when I'm doing anything at all that he doesn't like, like taking him to change his nappy etc.
If it's something like picking him up to cross a road I know I can say 'I need to pick you up so that you are safe because you're refusing to hold mummy's hand' or something like that.
But, as my subject asks, how can I balance respecting his wishes with those things he just has no choice about? What do others do in this sort of situation? Am I overthinking it? (No one needs to answer that last one 😜) I would love to hear how others approach this.