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    Quote Originally Posted by ~Marigold~ View Post
    I wouldn't feel comfortable having anyone else BF my baby. I feel like it's *my* role and even now as I thought about my answer, imagining another woman, even a friend or relative, connecting on such a primal level with my own baby just makes me feel very uneasy; I desperately yearned to BF my 2 but struggled with attachment issues and never made it past a week with either of them, so it's probably a sore spot for me personally.
    However, I am certainly not opposed to the notion and think if someone felt Ok with it with their own children, it's actually a very beautiful, natural gesture between mothers.
    Hypothetically, If I were able to and the circumstances warranted it, I would feed someone else's baby. I loved the little breastfeeding I was able to do with my own, it was possibly the single most pure and beautiful experience I've ever had.
    This is exactly how I feel. It's almost like you wrote this post exactly for me

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    Yeah I'd do it and I wouldn't have an issue with someone else feeding my babies.
    I agree with this. In fact I would love the bond created between the person who fed my baby and my baby. I would hope they were special enough to be in each other's lives for a long time.

    And I wouldn't need an emergency to do it.

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    Default Would you bf someone else's child?

    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    I agree with this. In fact I would love the bond created between the person who fed my baby and my baby. I would hope they were special enough to be in each other's lives for a long time.

    And I wouldn't need an emergency to do it.
    It's strange but if you'd asked this question when I'd only had one child I'd have answered differently - I'd have felt very threatened, very weirded out and that's ok.
    My views have just changed over the years as my circumstances have changed. My third bub was prem and I donated to the KEMH milk bank and would've gratefully received milk for him.
    I guess now it's just no biggie.

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    My mum told about a year ago that when I was baby, her friend babysat me a few times and on this one occasion she came home and her friend told her I 'got fussy' so she put me on the boob. It made me feel really weird to hear that as an adult. This might sound really strange but I almost felt violated.. Just a little. I can't remember ever meeting this friend, she's a stranger to me. But yet we shared something so intimate and personal. Would I breastfeed if a family member asked, yes. Would I breastfeed if a friend asked in an emergency, yes. Would I breastfeed my friends kid daily because they had to work, sorry but no. It's special.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    It's strange but if you'd asked this question when I'd only had one child I'd have answered differently - I'd have felt very threatened, very weirded out and that's ok.
    My views have just changed over the years as my circumstances have changed. My third bub was prem and I donated to the KEMH milk bank and would've gratefully received milk for him.
    I guess now it's just no biggie.
    Honestly with my 4th apart from those really early days I would have loved someone to come in at difficult times of the day and feed her! Would have been a godsend!!

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    I find this topic &the range of views so interesting. After 3 kids, I still have a very strong 'no way' reaction to the thought of someone else bf'ing my baby. I am totally instinctively not ok with it, & its such an inner feeling I just cant change. I wonder what it is that makes me feel this way when others are so totally ok with it. Strange how we can all instinctively feel so differently!

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    Quote Originally Posted by cheeeeesecake View Post
    I find this topic &the range of views so interesting. After 3 kids, I still have a very strong 'no way' reaction to the thought of someone else bf'ing my baby. I am totally instinctively not ok with it, & its such an inner feeling I just cant change. I wonder what it is that makes me feel this way when others are so totally ok with it. Strange how we can all instinctively feel so differently!
    Well for me I don't view breastfeeding as intimate. I fed anywhere in front of anyone. I didn't walk around all day with my boobs hanging out but if my baby was hungry I just sat down and fed it. And after #1 while I fed I was usually or often also pushing a pram, preparing food for other kids, reading stories, and sometimes even being parent helper in a class room.

    So for me while I think it's a bonding experience and I would never want to take the experience of breastfeeding away from me or my kids, I would have been completely unphased by any of them getting an odd feed from another mum who I was close to. I wouldn't want it to be the norm or even regular, but yeah on those really hairy days when it was hard to feed and do other things for my other children it might have been nice. Particularly as none of my kids ever took a bottle from me.

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    My first and second babies were on formula by 2 months old. I didn't consider breastmilk and would have never allowed someone else to breastfeed them.

    ....but number 3 is 4 months old and our journey is so different. We are both loving breastfeeding. I would love it if she was in the care of a (close) friend and was offered boob - if she wasnt taking my ebm or was just unsettled. And I would feed friend/family baby too.

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    I would, however only in certain circumstances. How well I know the child and how desperate the situation etc.

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    I'd be mortified if anyone breastfed either of my children so no I wouldn't. I would happily express and give another child my BM but wouldn't ever feed anyone else's baby directly.


 

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