My views have just changed over the years as my circumstances have changed. My third bub was prem and I donated to the KEMH milk bank and would've gratefully received milk for him.
I guess now it's just no biggie.
My mum told about a year ago that when I was baby, her friend babysat me a few times and on this one occasion she came home and her friend told her I 'got fussy' so she put me on the boob. It made me feel really weird to hear that as an adult. This might sound really strange but I almost felt violated.. Just a little. I can't remember ever meeting this friend, she's a stranger to me. But yet we shared something so intimate and personal. Would I breastfeed if a family member asked, yes. Would I breastfeed if a friend asked in an emergency, yes. Would I breastfeed my friends kid daily because they had to work, sorry but no. It's special.
I find this topic &the range of views so interesting. After 3 kids, I still have a very strong 'no way' reaction to the thought of someone else bf'ing my baby. I am totally instinctively not ok with it, & its such an inner feeling I just cant change. I wonder what it is that makes me feel this way when others are so totally ok with it. Strange how we can all instinctively feel so differently!
So for me while I think it's a bonding experience and I would never want to take the experience of breastfeeding away from me or my kids, I would have been completely unphased by any of them getting an odd feed from another mum who I was close to. I wouldn't want it to be the norm or even regular, but yeah on those really hairy days when it was hard to feed and do other things for my other children it might have been nice. Particularly as none of my kids ever took a bottle from me.
My first and second babies were on formula by 2 months old. I didn't consider breastmilk and would have never allowed someone else to breastfeed them.
....but number 3 is 4 months old and our journey is so different. We are both loving breastfeeding. I would love it if she was in the care of a (close) friend and was offered boob - if she wasnt taking my ebm or was just unsettled. And I would feed friend/family baby too.
I would, however only in certain circumstances. How well I know the child and how desperate the situation etc.
I'd be mortified if anyone breastfed either of my children so no I wouldn't. I would happily express and give another child my BM but wouldn't ever feed anyone else's baby directly.
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