I have an issue with your "%".
I have an issue with your "%".
It's that constant tension of instinct vs 'professional opinion' that I think causes so much uncertainty.
I do have to say though I'm finding it a bit more difficult now that he is inching towards one! Newborns seem easy in comparison
ETA to answer the OP, all I know is that DSs sleep changes at the drop of a hat. We went and saw a sleep psychologist who gave us some helpful tips to assist him to sleep a bit better overnight (he was waking between 3-6 x in 6 hours though and we were exhausted) - she said its totally normal for kids to wake up all night. There are occasionally some things you can do to help (in our case, we night weaned but only because we could not sustain the constant waking any longer) however 4 weeks of sickness followed so that went out the window real fast. Now we have other sleeping issues *sigh*
There are no easy answers and no black and white. Whatever will be, will be.
Last edited by Pearlygirl; 11-08-2015 at 19:37.
But, the point I wanted to make is that I went to our local parents and babies unit when my son was 4 days old for bf help. They booked me an appointment for settling help for when he was three weeks. Apparently, I was going to need it. I figured I would go with it, cause it couldn't hurt! Anyway, I got there and discovered that him sucking on his hand wasn't him asking for the boob again, it was a tired sign. I'd been thinking, yep, he's hungry, this must be that cluster feeding bizzo! I went home that night and feed him, then popped him into bed when he started sucking on his hands...I sat at the table and ate my dinner like a grown up for the first time in three solid weeks. No baby on the boob! Changed my life!!! Until the next change in routine he threw at me, but yeah. A little bit of education was super helpful to me.
Either way those suffering from anxiety need support and not judgement or ridicule (not saying that's what you're doing).
I didn't read any books and believed that being a mum was 100% instinctive and I would just 'know' what to do with my baby. I didn't. I had no clue! I struggled! I had no idea how to make her happy, get her sleeping (at all) how to stop her crying. I had to get advice on what to do.
I didn't just choose 1 book or one forum or one website. I read - A LOT! The baby sleep site became my bible however as the founder based her philosophy on here are 5, 6, 7 different methods you can try. There's no one method as there's no one type of sleeper. It was a lifesaver. She made me appreciate that CC wasn't the only way to give your child the gift of restful and significant sleep, but also reassured me that I also didn't need to feel like a monster for sleep training and I had some methods up my sleeve that would work for me and my family and started making me feel better that I didn't fall into the category of "my child's need for 4 cuddles at 1 year old in the middle of the night is more important than my mental health and subsequent mental heath of my child and the rest of my family."
What I mean by that is equally just as a posters comments that parents can help their kids sleep through the night, you don't have to accept your child is a "bad sleeper" may upset a parent who feels they have tried everything, it happens in reverse that parents are made to feel like crap for sleep training their children, knowing it's the right thing for *their* family.
See I don't know why it has to be one or the other. I'm a do what works for your family and don't like how any parent (sleep trainer or not) should be made to feel bad about their parenting decisions. It's just apparent to me that it's okay to make a parent to feel like crap for sleep training as it's in her families best interests, but it's not okay for a parent to make another parent feel like crap for *not* sleep training. Why the double standard?
Lol! I'm far too free flowing for routines. Feed play sleep is as much as I can manage :-P
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