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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    I can only speak for myself but I can honestly say that I genuinely assumed that people would understand the intent of my OP.
    I liked your thread the article was thought provoking.

    When I read the OP I thought the intent was to discuss how genetics may impact sleep. I thought it was a "here's a scientific study, what do you think about the study thread." From reading the OP I never thought posters were only allowed to talk about genetics impacting sleep though. From the OP I didn't think it was in any way shape or form a "support for mums of kids who don't sleep well easily" thread.

    I don't know whether that assessment is on or off the mark though!

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I liked your thread the article was thought provoking.

    When I read the OP I thought the intent was to discuss how genetics may impact sleep. I thought it was a "here's a scientific study, what do you think about the study thread." From reading the OP I never thought posters were only allowed to talk about genetics impacting sleep though. From the OP I didn't think it was in any way shape or form a "support for mums of kids who don't sleep well easily" thread.

    I don't know whether that assessment is on or off the mark though!
    I guess I meant it to be a supportive discussion about the study knowing that many of the mothers responding and reading along were most likely in the boat of needing the discussion to swing towards 'its ok if your baby is or is not sleeping' not being told yet again that the study *must* have holes in it and that their baby can be fixed if they try hard enough.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    Well, I did say *almost always*, so if you want we can have a semantic discussion :-) But surely you would agree with my point that in the cases when the intent is clear that we can all be adult enough to respect that?
    Yes. On the rare occasion that the intent of a thread is clear people should be adult enough to respect that. Unless the thread is
    1) A deliberate attempt to carry on an argument from a previous thread
    2) specifically quotes someone of the differing opinion from a past thread.
    3) involves a socially unconscionable topic (eg a thread venting about how gay marriage will ruin society - I couldn't keep my mouth closed).

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Yes. On the rare occasion that the intent of a thread is clear people should be adult enough to respect that. Unless the thread is
    1) A deliberate attempt to carry on an argument from a previous thread
    2) specifically quotes someone of the differing opinion from a past thread.
    3) involves a socially unconscionable topic (eg a thread venting about how gay marriage will ruin society - I couldn't keep my mouth closed).
    1) then report if the thread has been closed or breeches BH rules
    2) then report
    3) agreed. Would be very unusual in the sleep sections though :-)

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Yes. On the rare occasion that the intent of a thread is clear people should be adult enough to respect that. Unless the thread is
    1) A deliberate attempt to carry on an argument from a previous thread
    2) specifically quotes someone of the differing opinion from a past thread.
    3) involves a socially unconscionable topic (eg a thread venting about how gay marriage will ruin society - I couldn't keep my mouth closed).
    Let it go, Elsa.

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    If read by someone who knows your parenting style and background holly and who read the last thread that got closed would have seen the implied purpose. You didn't state the purpose.

    I think many times people are up front. - the implied intent of your thread was in my mind: spinoff from closed thread, here is some research to back up what I was saying in the old thread, therefore I would like everyone to remember that last thread and where I sit on this topic so please don't argue this post, I'm trying to start a new supportive thread given the other one was closed, so please let's keep this supportive. That was all implied, but you didn't state any of that.

    So I think it's important for everyone to not expect others to know the implied meaning, be transparent and state it so there's NO room for interpretation. Then if someone goes against the OPs wishes they can't play dumb - but the reason for the thread and any 'rules' you want to be set should be done in the OP in case people reply only to that and don't read other replies before posting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I liked your thread the article was thought provoking.

    When I read the OP I thought the intent was to discuss how genetics may impact sleep. I thought it was a "here's a scientific study, what do you think about the study thread." From reading the OP I never thought posters were only allowed to talk about genetics impacting sleep though. From the OP I didn't think it was in any way shape or form a "support for mums of kids who don't sleep well easily" thread.

    I don't know whether that assessment is on or off the mark though!
    I'd hazard off the mark. Holly posts an article about genetics and sleep, and the title was even about how genetics is what impacts on night sleep, and you still didn't think the topic was about the link between genetics and sleep?

    Maybe if you found reasons why the scientific research should be called into question, or other articles which called into doubt the link, then fine. But to simply once again say what your opinion is was obviously going to lead to an argument.

    VicPark as someone who used to actively participate in the discuss it threads about circumcision and vaccines I do get your frustration. I often went into debates not realising what was being asked of them. And I got in trouble for it.

    I do think those of us who disagree with you are liable to jump on you. But I also think sometimes you have already formed your views and aren't interested at all in entering a debate to actually have a debate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Yes. On the rare occasion that the intent of a thread is clear people should be adult enough to respect that. Unless the thread is
    1) A deliberate attempt to carry on an argument from a previous thread
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    3) involves a socially unconscionable topic (eg a thread venting about how gay marriage will ruin society - I couldn't keep my mouth closed).
    How on earth will this ever work if you can't let things go? I specifically quoted you in the OP as you continued to make a statement that j found offensive. And I did say that I didn't mind polite discussion or debate but you aren't interested in discussing this topic or debating it. You 100% believe you are right on this. So what can you continue to contribute?

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    totally off topic but can you not all just agree to disagree? lots of tension on the hub of late :/

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    totally off topic but can you not all just agree to disagree? lots of tension on the hub of late :/
    I think many of us would. But if we can't even agree of what we want this thread or section to look like it won't work.


 

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