Birth is like a marathon isn't it? Sometimes all it takes is someone there supporting you, telling you that you are doing it to get you through the next contraction. I was ridiculously exhausted after ds' birth and I think he was too.
You can also refuse examinations if you like or if they are too painful.
Eta: I did not feel calm at all in my labour and birth! However, dh says I was very calm.
Last edited by AdornedWithCats; 05-08-2015 at 18:47.
Epidurals definitely have their time and place in the birthing suite. I was deadset against having one initially but was so glad I did in the end.
I was strapped to the monitor from basically the start of my labour due to my bub having an irregular heartbeat . Couldn't move around or use the shower at all.
After 7 hours of not progress I finally succumbed to an epidural. I was basically given an hour to deliver Bub and went from 3 to 10cms in this time and pushed him out in 20 mins. By the time it came to pushing I was starting to get some feeling back so could feel my contractions a bit and knew when to push.
Without the epidural I would have ended up with an emergency csection. I was up and walking about an hour after the birth
I would love to give birth completely naturally but won't fight the epi if I feel i need it
There's no right or wrong answer. It's a personal choice that only you can make.
If you feel like you're not going be able to deal with much more pain, you'll decide to get one.
Epidurals didn't work for me. I didn't like the way I wasn't free to move when I laboured, nor did I like the feeling of helplessness. Additionally the 3 day migraine, UTI from the catheter, nausea, low BP that followed were all rather awful.
Epidural stalled my labour and i ended up with an emergency csection due to "failure to progress". I never wanted it but my body was pushing at 7cm dilated and the midwife kept telling me i couldn't push yet, but as i couldn't control it i was given an epidural. I won't have one with this baby if i have a choice.
meredithgrey what is the research on epidurals? As we know no two births are the same, but is it possible that a labour that progresses slowly would have progressed slowly with or without an epidural and vice versa? Have they done studies to show a direct link? I just think there may be correlation but not causation re: epidurals and things like cascades of intervention, chance of forceps, tearing etc.... But I could be wrong. If be interested what the research says.
I cant tell you why you should/shouldn't have an epidural but I will tell you the simplified version of why I didn't have one..... The risks far out way the benefits IMO. Good luck with your decision. X
With DS I took on a more whatever was needed attitude, that I was open to epidural but wanted to see how I coped first. The first 5cm I wasn't sure if I was in labor or not, then at the hospital I lasted about three hours walking through my contractions and dilated one more CM. Then I had an epidural because I was starting to not cope well, dilated the last 4cm in under two hours because I had relaxed, 20 minutes of pushing (I could still feel when I was contracting) and out came DS. For me, the epidural definitely helped me relax so that I could birth my baby in a calm environment. The pain was making me panic and become tense and reminding me of what had happened last time I gave birth so I feel the epidural helped me have the happy birth experience I so desperately needed. I also had no issues breastfeeding due to epidural and breastfed for 13 months.
Why not decide to just see how you're coping and have the epidural if you feel you need to?
ETA: I should add that I found recovery very easy, I was up having a shower about an hour later. My anaesthetist was amazing though, I don't know if that makes a difference?
Last edited by HollyGolightly81; 05-08-2015 at 21:27.
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