I had an epi last time after 12hra of labour after my waters broke at 37 weeks. I was not coping well emotionally as I was exhausted. I had not progressed past 4cm from 9.30-5 and that's when I was given the Epi, I then gave birth at 10.
I used the shower to begin but was told by the midwife to hop out and have a rest after a couple of hrs, I then started gas. After a painful examination where a midwife tried to stretch my cervix I went downhill and had pethadine. I was falling asleep between contractions and basically cried from the examination to when I had the epi. I was so emotional and I hated it.
When I was 10cm my epi was turned off to push. I felt every part of the birth which was painful but I survived.
I'm not looking for someone to make a decision for me, I'm just interested in other people's opinions.
I want a calm birth this time it don't know how I'm going to ensure this happens.
Water birth is not available where I live.