How could he feel that way though when I haven't. I'm not asking him to change his mind, I haven't said that he couldn't. I was just asking what others have done to move on.
When we discussed it last year he was in the middle of doing his teaching degree and financially etc it wasn't a good idea. It wasn't a discussion about whether we would start trying next year it was a conversation about whether we wanted another child in the future. His decision now is that he doesn't want another child ever.
And it's really hard to have a discussion with him when he doesn't want to talk about it. I didn't get angry when he told me, all I said was that that makes me really sad to hear. If he was willing to talk it through I'm sure it would help but I can make him talk if he doesn't want to.