I'm sure this topic has already been spoken about but I can't seem to find the threads so will just start my own.
About 12 months ago DH and I had a discussion about having number 3. Me for, him against. We said that we will revisited the topic in a year and see how we both feel. He said to me on Friday night that he definitely doesn't want a 3rd and wants to get a vasectomy.
To say I'm shattered is an understatement, I feel like my heart has been broken. I'm so grateful for our kids but really wanted a 3rd.
He knew instanty that I was upset but just got a bit angry and said it would financially ruin us (it wouldn't, we just couldn't do big holidays and have a lavish lifestyle which doesn't bother me in the slightest).
He won't discuss it says his mind is made up and if I was to fall pregnant now he would want to abort..
We are already seeing a counselor to work on our communication skills and will be bringing this up with her at our next visit. But I just thought I'd see if there was anyone else who has been through this and how they moved on?
I feel like he has completely disregarded my feelings but I guess someone was always going to be disappointed (so to speak). I would never want to do something that would make him unhappy but I just don't know how to move on, does the sadness eventually go away?