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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Ted View Post
    Hang on, hang on. First of all you need to explain yourself...and that avatar.
    It's last year's Bachelor Blake with his rumoured cabbage patch doll collection Why? Because I'm random and I think it's a crazy pic.

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    And this person pockets it themselves it's spent on just them ...not on partner or kids

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    Quote Originally Posted by RuffledPansy View Post
    And this person pockets it themselves it's spent on just them ...not on partner or kids
    I don't see the issue with this?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ExcuseMyFrench View Post
    I don't see the issue with this?
    If your partner was getting bonus each month (if business was doing that well) you would have no problems with him spending $5000 on just him..

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    Quote Originally Posted by RuffledPansy View Post
    If your partner was getting bonus each month (if business was doing that well) you would have no problems with him spending $5000 on just him..
    It depends on every couple arrangement. I have friends who keep separate accounts and only share the cost of running the household. Everything above that is kept in their own personal accounts.
    It's a valid decision as long as it's the choice of both partners.

    I believe we might need the whole picture to answer your question though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RuffledPansy View Post
    If your partner was getting bonus each month (if business was doing that well) you would have no problems with him spending $5000 on just him..
    That's a lot of money, to my family anyway.

    I wouldn't be happy if my DH got that kind of a monthly bonus and just frittered it away on stuff for himself. It's all relative though - if he was earning HUGE money and completely covering all bills plus savings, then it might be different.

    I would also be really concerned if my DH was acquiring dodgy bonuses.

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    That's a lot of money to hide from paying tax on. But honestly I'd stay out of this kinda stuff hey because honestly if it isn't your husband I don't really think it's any of your business what he spend or does with his finances.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RuffledPansy View Post
    If your partner was getting bonus each month (if business was doing that well) you would have no problems with him spending $5000 on just him..
    As long as I have free access to spare cash in the month ( and it wasn't spent on drugs, or other women) no I don't have an issue. If this was an ex and he wasn't paying correct child support then maybe

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    For me it depends if both people are working. If you're a SAHM on a budget while he's living it up that's not cool. But if you both work and there's plenty of money I would have less of an issue with it. But by him hiding it, it's not exactly a sign of a healthy relationship....

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    My DH gets quarterly bonus's it isn't a lot and normally goes in our savings account, or if DS needs new clothes i will do a massive online order.

    the last 2 have gone to our holiday fund.

    For me personally, i don't mind if he wants to spend some on himself, he works really hard, but he just doesn't, he will ask if i mind if he spends it on Sports equip and normally i don't unless he turns around the next week and moans we have no money .

    Do you know for sure that said person is getting these bonus's?


 

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