And this person pockets it themselves it's spent on just them ...not on partner or kids
It's a valid decision as long as it's the choice of both partners.
I believe we might need the whole picture to answer your question though.
I wouldn't be happy if my DH got that kind of a monthly bonus and just frittered it away on stuff for himself. It's all relative though - if he was earning HUGE money and completely covering all bills plus savings, then it might be different.
I would also be really concerned if my DH was acquiring dodgy bonuses.
That's a lot of money to hide from paying tax on. But honestly I'd stay out of this kinda stuff hey because honestly if it isn't your husband I don't really think it's any of your business what he spend or does with his finances.
For me it depends if both people are working. If you're a SAHM on a budget while he's living it up that's not cool. But if you both work and there's plenty of money I would have less of an issue with it. But by him hiding it, it's not exactly a sign of a healthy relationship....
My DH gets quarterly bonus's it isn't a lot and normally goes in our savings account, or if DS needs new clothes i will do a massive online order.
the last 2 have gone to our holiday fund.
For me personally, i don't mind if he wants to spend some on himself, he works really hard, but he just doesn't, he will ask if i mind if he spends it on Sports equip and normally i don't unless he turns around the next week and moans we have no money .
Do you know for sure that said person is getting these bonus's?
Pregnant for the first-time?
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