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    @Nicky1977: i recently was confronted with the question on the centrelink PPL form. It asks about the relationship of DH to the child. The only selections are biological father, partner of mother, other legal parent etc. Strictly speaking, DH isn't the biological father. He is the father and will be on the birth cert. Partner of mother sounds like for lesbian couple and other legal parent for stepfather. Someone from the clinic thinks centrelink should change the wording in their form. I guess it is for the purpose of chasing the responsible one for the child support.

    Baby changes so much. It is so bizarre that they are allowed the photo to valid for 5 yrs.

    I am hanging in there. Will be induced between 38--39w. However, there is a high chance that bub might come before that since bub has dropped down as of today. I am not ready....still working until mid next week.

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    @Nicky1977 - we did passport pics a couple weeks ago, and got really lucky. I made sure we went somewhere that specialised in infant photos (only a handful in Melbourne). The women taking the photos was awesome and bubs played along. The picture is adorable.

    We leave in early December so I need to get the application in soon. However his birth certificate is taking forever and I can't do anything without that.

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    @bbhope how exciting not long now until u get to meet ur little one
    Yeah really the centrelink form doesn't give appropriate options to your circumstances, it would be better if maybe there was an option for 'other.' That way all circumstances could be covered, they would probably want further information but could give people the opportunity to provide that. I got a letter from them a couple of weeks ago saying that I need to provide evidence that I have made reasonable attempts to chase child support by October 21st or risk loosing my Family Tax Benefit, I thought ok donors don't pay child support (ha ha can you imagine if they had to nobody would ever donate), so anyway they said I could give them a letter from the clinic stating the father is a donor, well bingo I already had the letter that they had given me for proof for applying for his passport. It's certainly not easy to deal with Centrelink and the applications, I hadn't had any experience of it before I was having Matthew either so it's all been very new and confusing.
    @lileitak that's lucky, anyway good that bubs played along and saved you a lot of stress. Matthew's birth certificate took 2 weeks to arrive. Rest assured that I got his passport 19 days after the day I applied (despite being told it was a complex application due to father being a donor and as such it could potentially take 6 weeks), so once you get the birth certificate it should be no problem. If you don't get it soon though chase them up just in case they hadn't processed it or received it.

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    @Nicky1977: After talking to others who are in the same boat and someone from the clinic, I went ahead with the biological father option. I didn't ask centrelink because the question itself is rather daunting to me. DH will be the legal father in all documents. What makes it an exception on the centrelink form? I didn't ask DH either because I am sure that he won't be amused by that. It is hard enough for us to come to term with all these and we don't want a constant reminder of a donor rather than moving on as the child legal parents. That's why someone from the clinic thinks they should just use "father" rather than "biological father" on the form.

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    @bbhope yeah I think you've done the right thing. Your DH will legally be the father and have parental responsibility so it doesn't serve any useful purposes sharing the intricacies of the situation with Centrelink. I'm sure they won't ask for a dna test lol, in any case it doesn't change anything. The only way it should really be relevant to Centrelink who the biological father should be would be in cases where there are disputes over child support I guess, and my situation where I can't claim child support from the "biological father." I have always found that I don't feel comfortable with a donor being referred to as a "biological father." It implies a relationship that they don't have with the baby, and in ur case would likely be upsetting to ur DH so I think you've done the right thing by not telling him.

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    To all the graduated ladies, do you have any early labor sign? I have had mild period like cramping on and off in the last couple of nights. I am not sure if it was Brixton hicks because it felt different than the Brixton hicks I reckon at around 30w. Perhaps that's because I was lying down in bed these few nights when it happened as compared to those while I was sitting. Sharp cervix pain every now and then? I am not trying symptom spotting but I thought labor will normally come in full force continuously rather than taking days.

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    Don't know if I'm the best one to offer advice @bbhope as I was induced, but when I was in the hospital and they accidentally broke my waters by trying to insert the balloon catheter I had quite intense period like pains. In the days before I had very mild spotting so had thought I may go into labour naturally before induction but it wasn't to be. Although I think I was looking for symptoms, it's only natural. Oh well we shall eagerly await news of your new arrival

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    @Nicky1977: so i'll be induced on Monday evening if i am not going into labour on my own over the weekend. GD is out of control at this point despite with insulin! That sounds scary about the balloon catheter. OB suggested this method rather than the gel as well. I've the option but i decided to stick with the "natural" way rather than the gel. Am i expect to go onto labour afterward or breaking the water will be my ultimate fate? We live far from the hospital so might have to request DH to stay overnight with me.

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    That's exciting @bbhope you'll get to meet your little one very soon

    What happened with me and the balloon catheter is not very common apparently. The doctor who did it had never had that happen before, at first she just thought the balloon had leaked even though I knew full well what it was, she was shocked. I didn't go into labour when my waters broke which happened in the evening, I was in pre-labour overnight when I was having the period like cramps, they had to bring it on in the morning with the Syntoconin drip, they wanted to give me a chance to go into labour naturally. I guess what I'm trying to say is everyone reacts differently. I think it may be good for DH to stay with you overnight just in case things progress quickly, I think that is a perfectly reasonable request.

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    Also just think once baby is born u don't have GD anymore. I still haven't had my post 6 weeks diabetes test cos I'm breastfeeding and my gp thinks that would effect it, so will wait until he's a bit older and not feeding as often or until I'm a bit better at expressing.


 

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