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    I would just go personally. Whole school productions teach so much to the children and so much work goes in to it on the school's part. I also agree with the 'you can't not do it just because you don't like it' train of thought.

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    My ds is becoming nervous about the upcoming school production as well. He was in kinder last year but watched his sister perform and had a ball. He is very clingy and shy.. But once he is away from me he just comes out of his shell. I am gently but firmly pushing him to give it a go, our school is only small and it's a big deal for the school and the town so everyone should play a part. (Obviously if he was genuinely upset I wouldn't make him but I know he will get over it quickly once he jumps in) It's only 1 night of a disrupted routine, and yeah the kids are a bit ratty the next day but they get over it and we all make it through another day

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    I would be honest with the teacher and advise that he can't do the evening concert due to other commitments, especially as he only has an "extras" role.

    I would however still encourage active participation during rehearsals and any daytime sessions.
    Maybe you can even attend a rehearsal?

    I was active in school productions and my mum went to all of mine, she didn't go to many of my sisters as my sister wasn't too keen on them ( or so she said at the time) turns out she wanted to do them but her friends at the time thought they were uncool. She has later expressed disappointment at not being able to get involved or mum not attending

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    No one can force your family into participating in something outside of school hours. However, I would counsel weighing up the message you are giving your child about opting out (The Arts is part of the national curriculum) and the message this gives to the school about the value you place upon the effort that is put into putting on these concerts (usually tens if not hundreds of hours of work outside school hours), with the impact of one night of interrupted routine.

    It interrupts the routines of the staff members too, but concerts like this are generally considered an important celebration of the school (and also those students who may be less academic and more artistically inclined), as well as a chance to interact in the school community, and as such are valued enough that staff put a considerable amount of energy into them.

    I believe it is a great learning experience to see these things through, and our children only gain confidence when doing things outside their comfort zone if they have many opportunities to do them, and encouragement and belief in them as well. Other children may feel this way in sport, or in morning talks, or in maths time, and we (generally) don't seek to excuse them then.

    Just another perspective.

    Although I do agree, Frozen is just a horrible choice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    No one can force your family into participating in something outside of school hours. However, I would counsel weighing up the message you are giving your child about opting out (The Arts is part of the national curriculum) and the message this gives to the school about the value you place upon the effort that is put into putting on these concerts (usually tens if not hundreds of hours of work outside school hours), with the impact of one night of interrupted routine.

    It interrupts the routines of the staff members too, but concerts like this are generally considered an important celebration of the school (and also those students who may be less academic and more artistically inclined), as well as a chance to interact in the school community, and as such are valued enough that staff put a considerable amount of energy into them.

    I believe it is a great learning experience to see these things through, and our children only gain confidence when doing things outside their comfort zone if they have many opportunities to do them, and encouragement and belief in them as well. Other children may feel this way in sport, or in morning talks, or in maths time, and we (generally) don't seek to excuse them then.

    Just another perspective.

    Although I do agree, Frozen is just a horrible choice.
    This with a balance of sometimes you just need to put your kids needs first. Say in the case of extreme anxiety. Not just I don't want to do it but full on panic attack.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveLivesHere View Post
    This with a balance of sometimes you just need to put your kids needs first. Say in the case of extreme anxiety. Not just I don't want to do it but full on panic attack.
    Oh absolutely! I meant to write that as well but it slipped my mind...

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    It sounds like you've got a lot on your plate OP. I don't think it matters if you miss it this year. Try again next year. Families all have different commitments and values which impact extra curricular things like concerts. If it were me I'd give it a miss too. There's plenty more concerts to come which you can encourage him to be a part of.
    Absolutely this, I wouldn't be able to stop stressing about the cluster feeding Bub, the toddler, the late night, before I could begin to get my head around a scared boy up on stage, I would try again next year or the year after that or even the year after that!

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    Also agree on frozen being a bad choice :/ though my dd would love that haha. Last year our school did a Camelot production, it was awesome. Think it's some sort of Australian bush story this year (they've only just started rehearsing today)

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    I would tell the school it doesn't suit us and that my child will not be participating.

    ETA: in the evening performance. I would probably push participation in the school hours one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BH-KatiesMum View Post
    How old is he?

    It is part of his education. Stuff like this teaches the kids confidence, it teaches them to speak in front of others and work with other kids.

    BUT

    if its not able to be done (at night, other children etc) ... then explain to the school and see what you can do.

    Most of those activities (public speaking etc) are also done at assemblies, class presentations etc as well.

    It is hard
    This exactly. I think if it's part of curriculum then it can be done in school hours. I wouldn't put myself/family through stress for something that makes him uncomfortable and isn't necessary. I'd back your son and give him an out. Tell the teacher it is just too much for you to manage this year, he can take part next year when dd is older. See if he can help prepare props or performance books while they are rehearsing so his contribution can be valued without making him/you stressed about something that really should be optional.


 

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