I totally get the inconvenience of it. Education is more than just reading and writing though. I assume the school production is a once a year (maybe twice?) affair? So even though its a bit of a PITA, its not like its every week. Putting in the effort to go is so valuable. IME, things like this really build school community. Its a great way for families to be involved, &a great opportunity for the students to shine,even if your DS isnt very into it. Has he actually said he doesnt want to do it, or are you assuming based on what he is like at home? If every other child is participating &it is a whole school event, he might feel a bit left out if he is the only one not joining in. The kids will all be talking about it, maybe incorporate it into their written language,etc. And he might be ok joining in if all the other kids are? I would talk to the teacher & tell her if he isnt too happy about joining in. She might be able to find another job for him or encourage him to give it a go. But if you really dont want to do it, just be honest &tell her its not foe your family.