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    Default School Productions - WWYD?

    My kid HATES anything to do with singing and dancing and literally cringes if anything remotely girly or romantic comes on t.v

    This year his class are doing a piece on the movie Fr0zen.
    Anyway, he is struggling with it big time.

    Personally I think these productions should be an opt in our out kind of thing, not every kid enjoys being up on stage. I hated anything to do with bringing attention to myself as a kid.

    Apart from his obvious awkwardness about it all, the timing of the show is putting us under a lot of stress to attend too.
    Come 4-5pm my DD is clung to me and if I have to put her down then it's a scream fest.
    DS has to be at the school (not even in our area) by 6:15.
    DD will be doing her cluster feeding thing and I don't breastfeed in public.
    My DH has to leave work a couple of hours early to meet this deadline.
    It's just stressful all around.
    His part in the production is tiny.
    He has a bit of singing to do with all the boys, and they're dressed in dark clothes as part of the background.
    That's it!

    How frowned upon would it be if we just didn't take part?
    This is all new to me, honestly there seems to be more put in to these productions and fund raisers than anything else. I just want my kid to go to school to get an education. If he doesn't want to take part in this he shouldn't have to.
    I feel like I'm alone in this though. It seems it's a no questions asked situation, here's your list of things to get and the money we will be needing for the costs so just show up!

    WWYD?

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    I'd speak to the school and see if he can miss it.

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    I wouldn't make him take part if he didn't want to.

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    I remember being in them at school. The rehearsals etc were a whole class activity so i cant imagine they would want him just sitting up the back alone while everyone else participates iykwim. I also dont think its their responsibility to provide another teacher to supervise one student in a classroom just because he doesnt seem interested..its like any lesson, even if you arnt interested in maths you still need to participate. I dont know how schools see it thats just my POV

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    I would assume there would be backstage roles available for students not interested in performing. That's what my high school did. It was mandatory to participate, but you didn't have to be on stage.

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    I'd explain your situation and see if there's some kind of compromise, if he doesn't want to participate in the performance perhaps they can give him another task to do that still means he's involved somehow if they are practicing during class time.

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    I'd totally try and opt out if I were in your position. Much sympathy for your son, I remember how much I hated that sort of thing in school.

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    I dunno, I think it's probably important that children learn that sometimes they need to take part in things that they aren't really into. But at the same time, if he was really upset about having to get up on stage, I'd be discussing other areas he could help out with the production without having to be up on stage. As for the night rehearsals, I would also discuss that with the teacher, explan your situation and how difficult it is to make it to those sessions, and see if there's a way around it.

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    How old is he?

    It is part of his education. Stuff like this teaches the kids confidence, it teaches them to speak in front of others and work with other kids.

    BUT

    if its not able to be done (at night, other children etc) ... then explain to the school and see what you can do.

    Most of those activities (public speaking etc) are also done at assemblies, class presentations etc as well.

    It is hard

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ruby_Tuesday15 View Post
    I would assume there would be backstage roles available for students not interested in performing. That's what my high school did. It was mandatory to participate, but you didn't have to be on stage.
    This.

    I don't think it's right to just get out of whole class activities just cos you don't like it.


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