So DD is 3 and up until a few weeks ago she was either looked after by me (in the year I was on Mat leave) or my parents, the in laws or DH. She now attends child care 2 days a week and 1 day with my parents.
When I'm at home with her I have no idea how much time I'm supposed to spend with her. I also have a 9 month old DS.
I just find she has had sooooo much time just doing what she wants, going where she wants (with the grand parents) and to some extent the same with us, but at the moment she has to have someone doing something with her all day. On weekends she cracks it if we do something DH and I want to do.
If she's watching TV someone has to be in the room watching too. If she wants to play in her room someone has to play in her room etc. If you don't go with her to either participate in what she's doing or just be in the same room she throws a tantrum.
If I need to do laundry or cook she follows me everywhere. If I do so and she really wants to do something else - again tantrum.
What is a reasonable amount of time to spend with her? If you're at home with 2 kids what does a typical day look like? How do you spread your attention between each child, doing housework, or doing something you actually want to do (like read, have a cup of tea, sit on bub hub)?
I don't want to not give her enough attention but at the same time I'm sick of the meltdowns when you don't do what she wants.