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    Quote Originally Posted by MermaidSister View Post
    ..I don't really see why a baby shouldn't stay over with its father? If its father has always had a relationship with it?...
    This. It was never raised as an issue by anyone when H wanted both kids to stay for overnight visits. Granted it started with one night every week, so the kids could get used to the house, and after 3 months (DSS 5 months) it was every second weekend as it is now.

    Never had a problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MermaidSister View Post
    I don't really see why a baby shouldn't stay over with its father? If its father has always had a relationship with it?

    It's not healthy to depend on our kids to make us feel worthwhile.
    1- i breast feed my children, do you suppose i can chop a breast off and send it with the baby 2- is it really any of your business? youve come across quite rude actually. 3- I hardly think missing our children when theyre away means we depend apon them to make us feel worthwhile anymore than you NOT missing yours means anything about you!

    my eldest started overnights at 3 1/2 once his dad had a safe and secure place, I wouldnt send a newborn or infant who was still relying primarily on breast milk but thats also not really any of your business anymore than what your decisions are of mine

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    Quote Originally Posted by HappyBovine View Post
    FWIW I agree with you. It is actually against every recommendation I have read to send a baby on overnight visits. There is plenty of time for overnights when they are older.
    i dont care what arrangements others make whatever works for them but I wouldnt willingly send my kids as babies, Happily work with longer hours etc and overnights from 2 1/2 - 3 if regular contact was being made (but once a month isnt regular contact lol), I'd enjoy a whole night of just doing whatever I wanted lol as Im full time studying an entire 24 hour block to do it all would be really helpful but I dont think it would be best for my children as young babies, the eldest is actually arranged to go two nights a fortnight but it doesnt happen often

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    Quote Originally Posted by HappyBovine View Post
    FWIW I agree with you. It is actually against every recommendation I have read to send a baby on overnight visits. There is plenty of time for overnights when they are older.
    Exactly! DH and I went through a rough patch last year and discussed the very real possibility of co-parenting. It was him who raised the issue that our children are so used to me being at home for the night routine (he works shifts) that they would be very upset and distressed if I wasn't there. He made the choice that if we were to go ahead with the separation he would have day visitation only.

    Very proud of him to this day for him putting the kids above his own wants/needs. And very happy that we got through the rough patch and are much happier now, together

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