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    it gets easier in time, the first few months of ds going overnight to his dad I bawled and missed him, now when he goes (not very often lately) I enjoy the down time, when both go overnight I plan on using that weekend as my me time

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nemmi1987 View Post
    it gets easier in time, the first few months of ds going overnight to his dad I bawled and missed him, now when he goes (not very often lately) I enjoy the down time, when both go overnight I plan on using that weekend as my me time
    Hope you don't mind me asking, but why don't both go?

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    Hope you don't mind me asking, but why don't both go?
    because the youngest isnt old enough to go overnight yet, if their dad was having regular contact we would be starting to work towards it from 2 with longer hours / earlier pick ups and later collections etc til he was 3 then both would go one night,

    but the contact they do have is irregular and be weeks in between or only a few hours every month etc

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nemmi1987 View Post
    because the youngest isnt old enough to go overnight yet, if their dad was having regular contact we would be starting to work towards it from 2 with longer hours / earlier pick ups and later collections etc til he was 3 then both would go one night,

    but the contact they do have is irregular and be weeks in between or only a few hours every month etc
    Hmm, ok fair enough.

    We had both kids (DSS was 2 months when they split, and 3 when H and I got together) from the get go, so I guess it seemed odd to me, but whatever works.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    Hmm, ok fair enough.

    We had both kids (DSS was 2 months when they split, and 3 when H and I got together) from the get go, so I guess it seemed odd to me, but whatever works.
    the youngest goes, just not overnight yet.
    I wouldnt send a tiny baby overnight

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    Hmm, ok fair enough.

    We had both kids (DSS was 2 months when they split, and 3 when H and I got together) from the get go, so I guess it seemed odd to me, but whatever works.
    That is very very young for overnight visits, and very unusual to have that arrangement. But yes, whatever works.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nemmi1987 View Post
    the youngest goes, just not overnight yet.
    I wouldnt send a tiny baby overnight
    Ah ok, I see Thought the youngest didn't see him at all.

    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    That is very very young for overnight visits, and very unusual to have that arrangement. But yes, whatever works.
    *shrug* it worked for us

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    Maybe there's something wrong with me, but I have never felt this when the kids stayed over with their dad. Perhaps because they've done it since the were babies...and I know there's a primary carer thing, but I don't really see why a baby shouldn't stay over with its father? If its father has always had a relationship with it?

    Anyway I guess the only advice I could offer is just to ENJOY that time! Unless you have some legitimate cause for concern as to the child's safety, she will be fine with her dad. Probably loving every minute. Go out, see friends, start dating, or stay in and just do nothing at all...remember what it feels like to be a woman again, not just a mother.

    It's not healthy to depend on our kids to make us feel worthwhile. Now's your chance to start rounding out your life with other things. Make the most of it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by MermaidSister View Post
    Maybe there's something wrong with me, but I have never felt this when the kids stayed over with their dad. Perhaps because they've done it since the were babies...and I know there's a primary carer thing, but I don't really see why a baby shouldn't stay over with its father? If its father has always had a relationship with it?

    Anyway I guess the only advice I could offer is just to ENJOY that time! Unless you have some legitimate cause for concern as to the child's safety, she will be fine with her dad. Probably loving every minute. Go out, see friends, start dating, or stay in and just do nothing at all...remember what it feels like to be a woman again, not just a mother.

    It's not healthy to depend on our kids to make us feel worthwhile. Now's your chance to start rounding out your life with other things. Make the most of it!
    Nothing wrong with you...I am exactly the same


 

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