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    I was the same with my first, I honestly thought what have I done?! It's ok to mourn as such your life before kids or life before one, two kids etc. I think it's totally normal.

    It'll get better and you will settle into your new life and eventually it'll all be the norm.

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    My daughter was only a few weeks old, it was 1am and she was crying and I sat there holding her crying as well saying to dh what have we done! Being sleep deprived and feeling like your body is not your own is a horrible feeling. But gradually things will become easier yes you will still have your hard times but they will become a distant memory.
    Are you able to have a bottle of ebm ready at night for your dh to give bub? Sometimes I would do that so I could get a decent block of sleep.

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    I know it's probably the least important thing out of all the things in your post, but the pet thing is spot on! My two cats gave me the right shi*s when my second baby was born! Hang in there love!

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    I agree it's a normal feeling, however I also want to let you know that it will get better

    A newborn is so dependent on you, so it's a hard adjustment, but it's a very fleeting phase as they grow up so fast. I generally don't leave the house much in the first 8 weeks as its a bit of a mission and hard to time things right, but after that it's definitely easier to get out and about more, baby will often start sleeping a bit better and feeding gets a bit easier too. Baby will often start to fall into a bit of a routine that enables you to plan your time and outings a bit better.

    Try and at least go for a walk each day with bub, it's good for you to get out, move around and feel the fresh air on your face. Go out for brunch with your hubby on weekends. Slowly you will get your life back and be able to enjoy things again

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    When DS was a few days old I remember crying whilst breastfeeding and saying to DH. "Get this thing off of me" I did have a hard time adjusting also, it was a massive change to my life!
    Fast forward 2.5y later and DS is the absolute light of my life and I am due with number 2 shortly! It will get better, newborns are hard - and kind of boring if you ask me! Wait until they start smiling and giggling, crawling, walking, talking - there is so much to look forward to!

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    Thank you everyone for your kind and honest support. I really appreciate everyone that has taken the time to reply. Xx

    I agree, even with a little bit of sleep ( a 2 hour block! ) things can seem better.

    I've been out a lot locally but have been chaperoned by DH as it takes a while to build confidence up, especially after a C section which I found hard to mentally process. It was a big change going from a confident women to someone who was too scared to even walk outside in the first week.

    I really hope I grow to have more patience with my animals as they gave me so much love before bubs arrived and it's not fair on them. I suppose the more sleep I get the more patience I'll have all round?

    Expressing is something I also need to revisit. I've tried twice and don't get the let down so not enough for a feed as yet. It seems tho that will be the best way of me getting some 'me' time.

    It's just taken me as a huge surprise that I'm not loving it more. I thought I'd get more out of it. Turns out that living in PJ's and being covered in milk all day doesn't make you feel a million bucks!

    It's positive that's everyone says it does improve. It's just hard when other new mums I know absolutely love it and I'm comparing myself to them.

    I do love my daughter with all my heart and want to be a good mother.

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    @LoveLivesHere wow six!! Now that makes me have so much respect for you. It also makes me wonder what the difference is between us.. I'm struggling with one and you're happily having more. Props to you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by amiracle4me View Post

    It's positive that's everyone says it does improve. It's just hard when other new mums I know absolutely love it and I'm comparing myself to them.

    I do love my daughter with all my heart and want to be a good mother.
    They may say they love it, but a thread I started about not having kids if I had my time over is testament to the fact that it's bloody hard and whilst many of us don't enjoy it we feel like we need to put on a happy face and say how wonderful it is - because that how we are MEANT to feel. Reality shows a different story.

    Those early weeks are HARD but they slowly get easier. Hang in there!

    You're already showing you're a good mum as you're reaching out.

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    Default Three weeks in and already struggling

    Yep totally normal. Weeks 4-8 were the hardest for me personally, then it got easier. That realization that you can't just jump in the car and needing to be a available to BF all day was a bit hard to take at first. My last middy appointment at 4 weeks had me in tears - she was my support and off she was going. By 3/4 weeks you've had all the visitors, your dh might be back at work (mine was), and I was thinking "now what?" My MW was great though and said it passes, and it did. Remember your hormones are also going crazy, youre tired, you're adjusting to a new life - all totally fine to feel a bit "blah" and overwhelmed.
    He's 10 months now and totally awesome. Once they start smiling, then laughing etc it gets way better (my pets still give me the sh1ts though!).

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    Totes normal and it will get better


 

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