I am a member of BH but have decided to use an anon profile even though I rarely post on BH.
Lengthy post ahead.
May last year we had a son and he was fairly helpful considering he was working 13 hour days and commuting 1.5 hour days. Although I ALWAYS got the "what have you even done today" if he came home and there was something not done like dishes or washing. Fast forward to where we are now our relationship has pretty much disintegrated into nothing. He now works 10 hours a week with a 1 minute walking commute I work 24 hours a week with a 1 hour commute and DS is in daycare for the days I work. We have recently moved in with MIL to save. He sits at home all day playing PlayStation and just being generally unproductive. No washing gets done, MIL washed his clothes 2 weeks ago and they are still sitting at the foot of our bed waiting to be put away. Dinner is still expected to be organised by me and I am still expected to basically have 100% care of DS. I can't even remember the last time DF changed a nappy. DF has never taken DS out anywhere on his own either to give me an hour to myself. So I am looking after DS full time during the day when I am not working. DS often wakes up at night and has been sick so we have let him have a bottle of milk with DF gets because he stays up until 1am on his gaming consoles anyway. Last night DF completely flipped his **** and started yelling at me saying why should he be getting up every night when I sit back and do nothing. I asked him not so nicely to be quiet as it's 2am and he's being extremely ridiculous. He then told me to shut the eff up and asked me to take my time coming home from a play date we had today because it's better when we are not home.
Fast forward to this morning he's not apologetic at all and we've cancelled the play date anyway because DS was throwing up. I have been tending to a sick baby who I've had to bathe, attempt to feed and get to sleep where he will only sleep if he is holding onto me. DF has been sitting on his *** doing nothing while he's got a pile of wet clothes to hang out, dishes to be done and dinner could be started.
Is it so wrong of me to want more from him? He barely works and does zero at home.
I am extremely unhappy with him and I don't like the path this is headed down.
I don't think I am expecting answers just need a vent. There's nothing I can do I feel stuck in this situation.