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    I'm also one for saying 'gentle hands' and 'gentle pats'. My DD is excellent at being gentle. She's a fair bit older though. I think at 11 months your best bet is to ignore and/or distract (depending on the behaviour).
    As for sleeping in your bed. If you don't want him in there, don't bring him in. There's nothing wrong with co-sleeping, as long as it's working for everyone involved. It may take a couple of weeks, but you'll be grateful in the long run. I would be gradually reducing your input on his sleep. Maybe cuddle at first, then keep him in his cot and pat him, then slowly withdraw from the room. This would take place over a few weeks I guess. You just need to be firm and consistent with whatever you decide to do.

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    My first was a hitter at the same age, he would smack you full in the face if he didn't get his own way even at 12months. My husband ignored it or distracted him (rather unsuccessfully) but he would often hit again. I got jack of it and started yelling "ow" holding his hand away firmly and saying "no" in a very stern voice. It worked within a matter of days. We then found he would continue hitting my husband until he was about 2yrs old. He definitely figured out that dad tolerated his outbursts more than me and as a result he was very well behaved for me, but an emotional nightmare around his father...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Luanajo View Post
    My DS is 11 months old, he's being so naughty but I don't know if he's too young to be disciplined or not.
    He started smacking, spitting and laughing as he does these things. He also screams as soon as I leave the room, I'm at my whits end I don't know what to do :/ he won't sleep in his own bed and that's my main issue!
    How can I get him in his own bed for the WHOLE night? Any tips and I'll be great ful sorry it's all over the place, heads a mess!
    At 11 months I would just completely ignore the behaviours you don't want him to have. He's very young and I think it's more likely to be just him having fun/ trying things with his hands etc. I don't think its possible to really be 'naughty' at this age.

    He might just have separation anxiety, if you have to leave room without him call out to him tell him where you are going. Distract him when you can. It's a pain but it will pass and he just needs his mum a little more at the moment.

    My youngest, 10 months is a nightmare sleeper (my worst yet) but what worked for my other kids was co sleeping. Otherwise.. Sleep school? That's just about where we're headed with my youngest..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mamasupial View Post
    I get where you are coming from. Behaviours should be separated from the child.

    Instead of saying no hitting etc, I'd say gentle hands so Bub isn't just hearing "hitting".
    I agree but what would you change for spitting? A lot of kids will associate hitting and spitting as just as bad as each other because they rhyme, so I used that example.
    Also depends on the child- gentle hands didn't work for DSS, but no hitting did.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HeavenBlue View Post
    How is this helpful. She's asking for advice, not a lesson in the use of language.

    I'd also describe my 15 mo DS behavior as naughty at times. I know he doesn't know better... Doesn't change my decryption of his antics.
    I gave advice. It's about correcting the behaviour and not the child- that way the child will respond better. It's one of the first things you learn when you do Early Childhood Education.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    I agree but what would you change for spitting? A lot of kids will associate hitting and spitting as just as bad as each other because they rhyme, so I used that example.
    Also depends on the child- gentle hands didn't work for DSS, but no hitting did.
    For the spitting I would encourage him to do something else with his mouth. Ie. Clicking his tongue or making funny sounds or rolling his R's (if you can - I did this with ds around this age). I do this whenever ds grinds his teeth and it has worked well to distract him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AdornedWithCats View Post
    For the spitting I would encourage him to do something else with his mouth. Ie. Clicking his tongue or making funny sounds or rolling his R's (if you can - I did this with ds around this age). I do this whenever ds grinds his teeth and it has worked well to distract him.
    No, no, I mean what would you say?
    I say "no hitting" because it is similar to "no spitting" and therefore would be seen as equally bad as they sound similar.
    If you say "gentle hands", do you still say "no spitting"?

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    In that situation I wouldn't say anything tbh. Just lead with the distraction. Spitting is actually a great skill. My ds can't do it so he can't use toothpaste yet!

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    For spitting, I gave my daughter a place where she could do it (over the edge of the bath). If she started spitting, I'd say "you can spit over the bath" and take her there. She'd spit briefly and get bored. If that wasn't possible; distraction.

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    Sorry for the late reply ladies.

    I don't call my DS 'naughty' to his face, I used it here, I guess because I was over exhausted and in a very bad/overwhelmed mood. I struggle with severe depression and just needed to vent and grab a few tips if I could.
    Normally when he hits, I just hold his hands away and say 'ow that hurts mummy' and if he still does it I move him away.
    The spitting I don't like, but I know I can't stop, he is bf and can't even take a cup or bottle because he spits it everywhere.
    I wasn't wanting to completely disciplin DS, I just wanted some ways I could stop the 'bad' behaviour before it became a habit. Sorry if I offended anyone.


 

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