My children are all well past the baby stage and I absolutely 'have my life back.' But raising children is a huge commitment, and I am raising one more than I would in my ideal world. That hasn't changed, yes it's gotten easier (in some aspects, in others it's harder) but at the end of the day I'm still raising the same number of children I was when they
were babies. And before our surprise addition I adored being a mother...would never have made it in to this thread if I didn't get a surprise. The family dynamic changed, and several years later I still have regular thoughts of how nice it would be if we only had the kids we intended to have (which again, doesn't mean I love my child any less...but l miss the parent I was and the life we used to have).