I also think this thread has been an interesting read. I work in a hospital so I've seen the health effects of many things that might be considered lifestyle choices such as smoking, poor diet, alcohol and drug abuse etc. When I see someone smoking I generally feel sad that they are addicted to something that will undoubtedly negatively affect their health. I don't think it's a great look in uniform but wouldn't say anything. I also would never make comment or make loud 'holding my breath' noises as I walk past, I think living in Melbourne I probably get as much negative impact from pollution as I would from second hand smoke. I don't have a child with asthma so sensitive it would be triggered by a whiff of second hand smoke, but if I did I would try to avoid the situation whenever possible.
I was staying out of this thread as I didn't want to be identified as a smoker. I'm so ashamed about it, as I think most are.
As a smoker I wish they'd just ban the damn things and take the temptation away. But they rely on our taxes too much.
I hate it I hate it but I'm weak, exhausted, it's my coping mechanism and I'm addicted.
I can't seek support from family to quit as I already hide it from them now, especially as I'm pregnant.
So hate me all you want, I already hate myself enough and the guilt kills me.
And hurtful comments just make me feel awful about myself and therefore want to smoke more. You cannot possibly understand the grip smoking can hold over you unless you've been there yourself.
That girl who was smoking was doing nothing wrong unless it wasn't in a designated area. Sure, it's not a good look but she is perfectly entitled to do so, she probably works a crappy job with crappy pay and it gets her through the day.
@Little Miss Sunshine big hugs. Smoking has a huge physical and emotional hold over addicts, and I think it is one of those things that's just hard to understand unless you've been there.
When I had PND and had just moved out with a kid that didn't sleep and was grieving, smoking became my crutch. It was that or alcohol and I felt smoking a few times a day made me a safer sole parent than one who went to sleep drunk or zoned out on prescription pills (also legal). They were both crappy choices but I made one. If someone had given me a hard time about it, it would've broken me, so I hid it. Then you get in the loop of smoking, hiding, guilt etc.
There are lots of poor health choices that people can make and that affect others. Smoking is the one that cops it at the moment. I mean, you can go to a public place just like everyone else, pay money to eat a meal and have a few drinks just like everyone else, but be sent outside to do a legal activity, rain, hail or shine. I get why, but it all contributes to smokers being second class citizens.
People on this thread were talking about their feelings about cigarettes in general, and just about everyone has feelings on cigarettes! I don't think anyone of it was intended as a personal attack. We just feel vulnerable about it and it's like someone knocking a bruise.
Just let it go for now. You'll quit when you're ready.
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