What are your expectations of school age children regarding helping around the house? Specifically I mean, keeping their rooms tidy, putting clothes in laundry basket and tidying shared living areas if they have left toys/blocks/books there.
I don't so much mean other household chores like setting table or cleaning areas, just tidying things that are theirs.
What about getting ready for school? e.g drink bottle in sink or lunch box in kitchen ready to be filled.
The children in question are 7.5 and 9.5.
I am finding myself nagging to get stuff done and my partner is suggesting I am barking orders. I have tried schedules and linking basic room tidying to pocket money with a tiny bit more success however my step kids have a really different living environment with their mum which I try to be sympathetic too but at the same time we work really hard for our house and belongings and seeing things not being respected is really taking its toll on me.
Have got to the point where I just shut their doors and let DP handle it but we have a rent inspection tomorrow and I have collected 3 laundry baskets full of stuff from my step daughters floor and the room is filthy as I have not been able to clean it for weeks.