this will sound awful but I felt suffocated just reading your post. No wonder they feel like this. You're going to have to accept that your daughter in law is your son's #1 priority now, not you, you're 3rd on the ladder after then baby and her. Be grateful they even let you stay because if my mother in law was this pushy I'd be the same. You can't DEMAND they have a duty to look after you. The way you're going about this you will get diddly squat in all areas. I don't know any newly married couple that would want their in laws over for weeks on end. Your daughter in law is setting boundries. respect them and she'll probably meet you half way.