To put it simply, I am pregnant and wish to let my stepkids' bio mum know before we tell others.
Mainly because I feel this will be confronting- she can't have more kids, she is single, her kids will have a sibling she didn't give them, her ex is having a baby, etc.
Also, I don't want her to find out from the kids- that would be horrid.
a) Face to face- but don't want to put her on the spot. It will be a big shock to her (she believes that her and H's hard pregnancy journey was due to his "equipment" and refuses to acknowledge/believe that is was mainly her). Also my emotions are all over the place, and if she gets upset/aggressive (she is not an in control person) I will too.
b) Email- gives her time and space to deal with it without having to see us. Means we can tell others the same weekend and not cause offence, and avoid a slip where she tells the kids before we do. Seems impersonal and like I want to distance her though..
Either way, I will be discussing how I wish to include the kids, how she feels about their inclusion, etc.
Thoughts? Other ideas?
Yes, H should be the one to do it, but they have a really bad relationship at the moment and I am not entirely sure she wouldn't blab to ruin his plans, before realising she was doing it to me and the kids too.