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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Nope, I just go on like I'm fine bc the house falls into ruin if I rest. It makes me really resentful tbh. DH is currently in bed at 7pm bc he feels sick while I battle a borderline migraine with 3 hyper, cranky kids. He's a good dad but the moment there is the slightest thing wrong with him he's in bed but if it's me no one cares
    Yeah DH is much quicker to rest than I am. If I'm really unwell he is pretty good with sorting the kids out and doing stuff around the house, but he's working a lot and can't take time off at the moment. The main issue I have with him is that he never does the 3am/4am waking with DS. He'll do the midnight feed but the rest of the night is up to me. It's killing me, I'm so tired. He says he'll do it but either doesn't hear DS or if he does get up he will try to resettle for 10mins then give up and get me. I know he's working long hours and needs sleep but even if I could get 2 full nights sleep it would make a huge difference.

    If DH is sick he has an afternoon nap, sleeps all night, gets his dinner made for him and I look after the kids. He tries to help when I'm sick but it's not the same.

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    I wish I could rest when sick. I can't. I have a 17 month old and a 4 yr old and DH works for himself.

    I couldn't care less about housework but ds1 is only in daycare 2 days a week and ds2 is home every day, they don't let me rest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by J37 View Post
    It is very difficult, isn't it? I was diagnosed with breast cancer in January, and have almost finished 6 months of chemotherapy...which makes one vomit, nauseated, and absolutely exhausted. My kids have only just turned 2 and 5, so were 1 and 4 for most of my treatment. I was told to "rest" by my Oncologist, but I couldn't exactly put off washing/ironing/cooking/cleaning for 6 months!!
    My surgery is at the end of this month, and I'll be discharged with a drain tube from my armpit. Again, I am supposed to rest. But as many of you have said, the house goes to Hell in a hand-basket if I just leave things!!
    I think sometimes you have no choice when you have young children...you just have to soilder on.

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    I remember when you were diagnosed, I hope your treatment is going well. I can't imagine being that unwell for 6 months and trying to look after kids, house, etc.
    Is your DH going to take time off when you get home from your surgery?

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    I've been battling a throat infection for a month and I just battle on.. Work, housework...

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    I sure do. I'm not going to be sick for a couple of weeks when I can rest and get over the worst of in three days.

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    I rest in such of I don't do housework. You should see my house right now as I don't have the energy to tidy/clean it thanks to morning sickness.

    If I am really struggling DH will get takeaway, safer than him cooking.

    I still however at least have to help with bath routine and I put both boys to bed. If it's a weekend DH will do a lot of the child caring so I can sit down but Monday - Friday I'm on my own with a 2 1/2 yr old and 8 month old and they never seem to get the message that mummy feels like rat Sh!t

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cue View Post
    I remember when you were diagnosed, I hope your treatment is going well. I can't imagine being that unwell for 6 months and trying to look after kids, house, etc.
    Is your DH going to take time off when you get home from your surgery?
    Thanks for remembering me
    Hubby can only take 1 day off when I am discharged after my surgery, so I will need to battle on with the kids. As I said, Lucy is only just 2, so lifting her will be difficult and likely very painful. Not looking forward to it!

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    Oh no! Why only 1 day?? That's pretty hard on you. Can you get someone to help for a couple of days? Even hire a temp nanny? If you lived near me I would bring you some meals and clean your house!

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    Nope 4 kids and a husband that works crazy hrs I don't have the time.
    Mind you I do cook simpler meals and only clean the bare essentials.


 

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