Thank you for your replies it means a lot. I totally understand that during the pregnancy she might not feel like it and will support her totally I am more worried that it won't return after. Our sex life at the beginning was great couldn't ask for more, but then she was stressed and it took a tumble and gradually made its way to here, most days turned to once a week, that turned to once every few weeks and then to months. All because of stress, what's got me worried is that stress is never going to go away and if I go by that reasoning I can assume that the sex will. Kids are stressful geez if it turns out anything like me when I was younger we are in for a treat, toothless terror, they called me haha. I'm torn I love her and I don't want to leave her, but I want to have that intimacy that couples should have. After bubs if nothing's changed in going to see if we can go see someone. If it comes from me I think I'm too emotionally attached to this and will only come out as me trying to make her feel bad but if someone else can help they are unbiased and maybe we can find some level ground. Because I tried for so long I pretty much have given up and it feels awkward for me to even try make a move on her. Has anyone had troubles kick starting things again any solutions that you might able to share with me?