He didn't end up getting it til AFTER our son was born (and I'm still not convinced he actually got it). I was so angry but so timid i never said anything.
This time I'm very outspoken with the in laws. FIL has not spoken to us in a year which suits me just fine, now just wish MIL would ping off. She acts like my babies are hers. She ignores me all the time. Being a smoker she doesn't cover up or put her hair up unless asked EVERY SINGLE TIME. This time I'm telling her t&c beforehand once and once only