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    This was meant to say: this is why I didn't want to tell her...

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    If she had stopped at 2 children I'm sure her kids would have had a better lifestyle too!

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    She ****es me off big time - yes we can afford ivf but only because we work hard, both of us. She has never worked in her life and yes we are financially better off than her but we are not rich people that just do ivf for fun. I doubt anyone would do ivf for fun? I can't fall pregnant as easily as she can. I had painful surgeries and still suffer from pain every month and she seems to think its a choice? Argh!

    I was hoping my Fs would have been right after my lap that I would fall pretty quickly hopefully but I didn't. I don't know what the issue is and why it's not working as quickly as he thinks it should.

    How would anyone think it's a choice to get operated and experience this pain and only see BFNs?

    WTF

    Sorry vent over and thank you for allowing me to let my steam off and thank you for your warm comments.

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    I'm so sorry, what a truly horrible thing to say at the time when you most need support

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    Quote Originally Posted by KittyDeFleur View Post
    Thanks everyone - it wasn't unexpected to be honest. I remember her comments when my husband married me as I am from overseas I got the label of wanting a visa, why else would I marry someone 12 years my senior within a year of having met each other. Anyhow that's what she suggested to hubby. I've been a citizen now for many years she must be surprised I haven't left him lol.
    Hubby reckoned she changed - well obviously not. That's why I wanted to tell her: I don't like boats rather than letting her info our ivf secret.
    Another comment we got was since this debarkel:
    "I am sorry about earlier, of course going through this is entirely up to you and kitty. I mean you can obviously afford spending tens of thousands in ivf and what not given the success of your business which is evident by your recent property purchase and new car. I guess a science baby would fit right into this lifestyle (as if it would be some sort of accessory silly woman) as it seems what all wealthy people are doing (oh yeah we have money coming out of our arses - not). But maybe you should consider the children you already have and how they might be affected by this. This money could pay for their university degrees."
    Is she delusional?
    I think it's clear this woman has some deep-set issues of her own. Sounds like she is too invested in having an opinion on her brother's life (butt out control freak!) and has some jealousy over her perception of your 'lifestyle' as she puts it. I hope that you can create some distance from this relationship, be civil when required but not forthcoming about anything and limit the time you spend with her and interaction. Or cut her out completely if you can!
    Any future comments/questions about your treatments could be responded to with a simple 'thank you for your interest however DH and I have nothing to report at the moment' or 'DH and I would rather not discuss the specifics of our medical treatment at this time'. Shut her down completely. Good luck she sounds like a right nightmare so will be healthier for you mentally to keep your distance if you can.

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    I love the way she came back acting like she was apologising and instead used it as a chance to have another go.

    I would write back "we have thought about all the pros and cons and the benefits far outweigh the negatives. IVF is not an easy option, nor are IVF babies "science" babies. They are babies who are so loved their parents will move heaven and earth to have them. I am thankful we can afford it, we both work hard to afford it. I'm sorry if sharing our story made it seem it was open for discussion, this was not our intention. In future if you could please not share your views on the subject it would be appreciated".

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    I found keeping my sil at arms length. You still need to be polite (we are all adults apparently ) and she is his sister.
    Mine new about the new cycle but that's about it. I'm lucky we had Massive fight about 2.5 mths ago so that made it easy
    For me not to forgive her this time round. I find most things about her and what she does "****es" me off but what can u do. Just no your the bigger person and to hell with her. (Easier said than done I no).

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    I'm still picking my jaw up from the floor..

    I think @gingermillie is right, theres obv her own issues here... and what @Wise Enough said is perfect... Stay away from that black hole

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    Quote Originally Posted by KittyDeFleur View Post
    Thanks everyone - it wasn't unexpected to be honest. I remember her comments when my husband married me as I am from overseas I got the label of wanting a visa, why else would I marry someone 12 years my senior within a year of having met each other. Anyhow that's what she suggested to hubby. I've been a citizen now for many years she must be surprised I haven't left him lol.
    Hubby reckoned she changed - well obviously not. That's why I wanted to tell her: I don't like boats rather than letting her info our ivf secret.
    Another comment we got was since this debarkel:
    "I am sorry about earlier, of course going through this is entirely up to you and kitty. I mean you can obviously afford spending tens of thousands in ivf and what not given the success of your business which is evident by your recent property purchase and new car. I guess a science baby would fit right into this lifestyle (as if it would be some sort of accessory silly woman) as it seems what all wealthy people are doing (oh yeah we have money coming out of our arses - not). But maybe you should consider the children you already have and how they might be affected by this. This money could pay for their university degrees."
    Is she delusional?
    Okey doke. Your hubby needs to pull his finger out and be incredibly blunt in putting her in her place. And firm in not inviting or allowing her to comment on your personal life.

    Eg:
    "Your last comment was ignorant, rude and hurtful. We will not allow you to comment on our personal life anymore. End of story."

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    Some people just need to prove to world that they are ignorant b1tches.


 

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