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    I cam see where you are coming from redcreaminsoda & thank you. I do try to be consistent in that rocking to sleep is only used as a fall back when settling in the cot isnt working.

    Unfortunately dh would never tell his family not to come.

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    I can sort of relate to you OP, it's frustrating because you want to encourage DH to do his part but it's also sometimes more important for bub to just get some sleep.

    Our DD was a terrible sleeper, catnapped throughout babyhood and wakeful at night until nearly 2 years old (and still prone to waking up a lot). It means that for our family, naps were SO important, because we just never knew when DD would get a decent sleep next. We could never bank on her 'catching up' and missing naps meant FERAL time.

    Look, bottom line: you and DH need to be on the same page. But you also need to be consistent with sleep routines. So what's the compromise? You're going to have to sit down together and agree, ahead of time, how you're going to deal with "high activity days". Whether it's not scheduling as many things in (why bother if the baby's naps are going to stress you both out and make you fight?) or dividing your time is one person goes out while the other stays at home - but definitely some changes need to be made!

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    If this was me I would just be putting ds down for a sleep myself and not even asking DH to do it.

    I agree though in that I think you should just do what works not spend hours doing stuff that doesn't work just for the sake of it being the right way to get them to sleep or whatever.

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    You can't make him understand.
    Just like he can't make you understand.
    You do it one way, and he does it another.
    You way isn't right, neither is his.

    You are both doing what you feel is best for your child and family.

    i get that it is frustrating, though

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    I have the magical cure. Tell DHs adult brother to stay the hell away when your settling him tonight. Dont beat around the bush, say "i am putting him down, no one is to disturb us."

    Its going to be much easier to deal with him straight up then your screaming baby.

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    Id tell him straight up if it wasnt likely to cause a family conflict.

    Tonight dh just told him i was breastfeeding ds so that kept him away


 

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