Ladies, I have to say I admire your strength. Its such a hard path to be going down. We are just starting out on the whole IVF caper and already trying to pace ourselves so we don't get emotionally and financially overwhelmed.
We are based in Melbourne, and would look to go somewhere like Monash next time around. I don't necessarily think they are a better clinic, just that if I turn up there with what didn't work and am seeking a second opinion, they are more likely to give it to me. I don't think one size fits all, but each clinic does their 'protocol' and hopes that it works.
I think I would probably try Dr Lagotis, as I hear he is quite progressive.
We are using clinic-recruited donor sperm, so think it will be near-on impossible to move the embryos away from the clinic- we will use them up and go from there.
The only thing I did differently on the successful (although ultimately unsuccessful) transfer was take high-strength fish oil. I did some hunting about on line and found some research that says taking the fish oil can suppress auto-immune issues when TTC.
The chem cycle (I only know because I tested early- first beta was negative) I wasn't taking the fish oil prior to transfer and only every day or two after transfer.
The fish oil can take up to 6 weeks to work (according to the naturopath), and I have been taking it for about 2 1/2 so far. It might be mumbo-jumbo or purely a placebo effect, but I am now taking it every day without fail in the hope that it can bring a sticky BFP (hopefully on a chromosomally normal embryo).