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    Quote Originally Posted by Cicho View Post

    Being fed soap for having a foul mouth is not abuse. It is a consequence.
    Its not a consequence. There's no connection at all between bad language and forcing caustic chemicals into your child's mouth. Its cruel. Parents have been arrested and had their children taken off them in the States for washing their children's mouth out with soap.

    Unicef define abuse as any deliberate action with the potential for physical harm. Soap is a poison when taken internally -I think that forcing a poisonous substance into your child's mouth is a high risk action fitting the above definition.

    The following govt site lists simple soap as poison and that children are more susceptible than adults: http://www.healthline.com/health/bub...oaps#Symptoms4

    You may not intend your child to swallow any of the soap, but if its in their mouth they will swallow some of it, and if they're distressed then there's an even greater likelihood they'll swallow it.

    I find the idea that people still think its okay to 'wash a child's mouth out with soap' in this day and age quite upsetting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cicho View Post

    There is an entire generation who have no respect for authority, or anyone for that matter. A bite of soap might be enough to change their tune.
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    Yeah like the 14 year old that lives next door and signals for me to get on the bus first even though he has been waiting longer that me. @rsehole.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cicho View Post
    I don't agree with actully using the soap or tobasco, but threaten to use it.
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    Mmm. Never make threats you are not prepared to follow through on - it's the second easiest way to lose control and your kids respect. The first is to resort to abuse because you can't happen to think of a better way to 'discipline' them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EmilySmith1988 View Post
    Both my 8 and 13 year old daughters have disgusting mouths. They swear around the house, in the street and even at me when they are having a tantrum. I have tried grounding the older one but she isn't bothered so what other methods can I use to discipline them both?
    Have rules, consequences and stick to them. And find the adult in close contact with them who swears a lot. Tell them to either zip it or bugger off. If it's you then you're going to have to stop and lead by example. Kids don't develop that type of behavior on their own - they are taught it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Have rules, consequences and stick to them. And find the adult in close contact with them who swears a lot. Tell them to either zip it or bugger off. If it's you then you're going to have to stop and lead by example. Kids don't develop that type of behavior on their own - they are taught it.
    I agree with what you're saying, though at that age they're just as likely to be hearing the language in school than from an adult. Especially the 13 year old and the 8 year old could just be parroting the big sister because she thinks it's cool.

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    Is this a genuine thread? Are there people are out there that create controversial threads to fish for some action?

    This just seems suss... Again...

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    OP, In a different thread you've said your daughters are 9 and 13... Not 8 and 13 like this one... Threads posted 1 hour apart? Pants on fire?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moxy View Post
    I'm not advocating the soap, but this logic rarely works either. If my husband made me sit in a corner for 5 minutes or confiscated my phone or grounded me and told me I couldn't attend a social occasion for a fortnight, that would be abuse as well. There are differences in punishments for children and how adults treat each other.
    Fair point, however taking your child's phone, making them sit in the corner or preventing them from going out don't require physical force or violence if your child respects your authority. My husband doesn't have authority over me. If he wanted me to sit in the corner, he would most likely have to enforce that using intimidation or violence and that is why it would be abuse. And for what it's worth, I'd still consider it abuse if you used physical punishment to get your child to sit in the corner.

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