She's a beautiful girl tooxoxo
How long does the vet think she will last if you don't put her down? Is she in pain? Can you change her diet to suit her needs at the moment, for example cooked plain chicken breast, white rice with some mince etc. This worked for me when my dog was very, very sick as a puppy, wouldn't eat any commercial food wet or dry so I cooked her chicken breast every day and hand fed it to her for weeks.
I guess if she has no quality of life at the moment, not playing, in pain, miserable then maybe it is the nicest thing for you to do. If she still is playing and happy at times maybe she just needs a few changes to make her happier? Some pain meds or change in food.
In saying this, my 2 dogs are still young and I've never had a dog before them and never had to put an animal down, so my advice may not be that helpful as I would have no idea what to do in real life. It breaks my heart to even think about it and all these stories are so sad hugs xx
The vet has basically said to give her what she wants at this point. Her kidneys are too far gone. She can't even walk to the end of the street. I almost had to carry her home because she was so slow and stumbled. She's also started having seizures.
She had cancer a few years ago and went through chemo and that's probably what's done her kidneys in. She's been through a lot and has remained happy but now I don't think her quality of life is what it should be
I'm so sorry for what you and your family are having to do.
I don't know Re: kids but I know I feel devastated and guilty that I wasn't there when my dog was put to sleep at the beginning of the year. We thought we were leaving him at the vet for an operation but after we left, and they did X-rays, they found operating wasn't an option and that it was kindest to put him to sleep.
I had given him huge cuddles before we left the vet, but my DF hadn't. He was really sad about that.
So I just offer that if possible, take the time to have a cuddle, talk to your pet, say whatever you want to say.
I had to have my dog put down at the end of last year. She was 15yo (very old for a Dane x Ridgey), and had been declining for a while. She was still happy though, despite some occasional hip pain. She started losing a lot of weight near the end though.
One day I had a very distressed call from my mum (she lived at my mum's house) that there was something wrong with Jade, and to come immediately. I found her crying in the backyard, couldn't walk, it looked like she'd had a stroke or something. I knew it was the end.
We took her to the vet, my brother came as he needed to carry her. The part I found so very hard, and I cried my eyes out, was before the procedure when the vet had me flick through the urn catalogue and choose which one I wanted. Ugh. I'm welling up again just thinking about it. It was just too surreal, and so so final.
In the room, the vet was very good. Explained exactly what she would do, and explained what kind of things Jade would do when she passed.
I knelt down in front of the table, infront of her face, and stroked her head and talked to her, I always called her "my puppy", so just kept saying that and saying "bye bye puppy". The vet did the injection into her arm, it was easy enough because she was still and calm anyway. She took a couple of deep breaths, and that was it. Poor puppy. She was such a darling.
The vet left the room and let us say our goodbyes. When I was ready my brother went and got the vet to come and take over, I wasn't ready to leave her alone in the room, she always got so nervous at the vet lol.
She came back to us a week later in her urn with her name engraved on it. I have her here with me which is lovely, she was always so protective of me despite her living with mum for most of her years.
Anyway, sorry for the whole story, I think it did me good to get it out finally.
Huge hugs for you OP. It's such a sad time.
Re. bringing kids. I have no idea. Mine didn't come because my dog took up the whole back seat of the car!
I also would have found it difficult to deal with my own distress AND comfort the kids.
It's horribly surreal thinking of urns and stuff but if you have a chance to devote a final week or two it's an amazing opportunity.
Endless bbq chicken. Endless chocolate. Endless whatever treat your puppy loved.
Whatever outings they are able to cope with.
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