Ok, my baby is 6 months this week and I'm trying to teach self settling the nicest way possible. For background, this is our 5th baby, during the week I have 2 children at school, 1 teen doing distance ed at home and a 2 year old at home with me too. Our house is small. 2 kids in each room and baby in cot in our room.
I have been thinking since baby was 3 months old that i need to start putting him down to self settle and then at 4 months but I get busy and before I know it I've rocked him, carried him, cuddled or fed him to sleep most of the time. I am really busy just keeping on to the housework daily. I can however commit to staying home all week with just going for walks to park etc.
My baby this week turns six months, last few weeks was really really sick with chicken pox and was held literally 24/7. I'm desperate to get into a routine of some sort so that I know I can get him to sleep for my sanity. I tried one day last week self settling and I got him to self settle within 15 mins each time. Just by patting or sitting in room, or popping in and out and reassuring him. But then the next day when I tried this he wouldn't stop crying with patting, shushing or singing. And he was getting really worked up so I didn't feel right as I couldn't get him to stop crying. So I picked him up and rocked him.
Now I need all the advice I can get. Where do I go from here...is this the point where I have 2 choices? Controlled crying or carry and rock him to sleep. Is there anything in between?
Also he doesn't sleep long stretches at all, upto 40 mins maximum. Please throw all you advice my way ....