@Jem70 Thank-you for sharing Luv I totally understand, it's a "whatever will be, will be" situation and although you're not actively trying, you're not preventing either...fair enough.
I'm still going to and send a prayer to the Universe for you anyway Luv He sounds like a wonderful man btw, but then you're a wonderful woman so I'd say it's a pretty equal partnership there
@Jem70 - I had no clue that something like that could happen with a donor - I mean really?? Is that specified anywhere in any of the paperwork we sign? So do we assume the new partner is not happy with the fact he's donated sperm - what about the fact he prob has children out there already?
It seems utterly ridiculous to me - what, does the recipient woman have zero rights in this scenario??
@Kelly70 it's been awhile but my understanding was that the only issue was if he died! Who knows - maybe he does have the right to withdraw consent for any reason.
i found the whole thing bizarre and they couldn't give me any indication when it would be resolved. Here's the kicker - I was planning to do a transfer at the beginning of August until super fella came along. I can't even imagine how upset I would be.
i honestly believe that as soon as they become embies all consent issues should be moot.
cant wait to get home tomorrow and check the paperwork - I can't believe I missed this!
Oh really Jem I am shocked. I am not up to date on the legalities but I would have thought that once the donor shot his load, that's it for him. And he should have thought about all the future implications before doing so. Now that they are embies, it's too late for him to say what is to be done with them because then he's wasting your precious eggs too! OMG I can't believe the new girlfriend has any say in this! Totally shocked. It's good you have a new partner and you're very level headed but if I were you I would lawyer up.
Back the frucking truck up a 'mo....just had a thought....wasn't this possibility disclosed when you had counselling prior to being able to access DS?? Or did you not have to do that @Jem70??
I really hope there's no fine print about it in your paperwork/consent forms so you can challenge it Luv or else what's the frucking point going down the donor route if shiz like this can happen??
Have a safe trip home Luv xo
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