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    Quote Originally Posted by Moxy View Post
    P.S. any chance you'll tell us the name? Just because I'm nosey....
    Oh me too. I'm dying to know the name.

    OP, I've sort of been in your position in that 3 weeks before DD2 was due DH decided he didn't like the name. He would never suggest any names so I gave him a list of 5 names to choose from and he didn't even look at it. When DD2 was born he straight away said she was the name he previously didn't like. If he had chosen another name from the list I would have been disappointed as I loved the name I really wanted but I would have gone along with his suggestion.

    now for the funny part.....4 years down the track I wish DH had chosen another name as DD2s name is so popular and as much as I think it's a beautiful name I regret using it.

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    Can you use it as a middle name?
    Your husband should have just as much say in the name as you do.

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    Has he given reasons for not liking the name?

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    No, DH and I have a deal that we can veto a name the other one likes without argument. It sucks sometimes, but you will find something you both like. We only thought of DS1's name the day before I got induced!

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    We can't use it as a middle name as its too strong to use as a middle name. He hasn't given valid reasons, just says it's too old fashioned and doesn't like it.

    The thing that annoys me is that he won't suggest other names, or if he does they are names that have been used to death which I would never consider.

    I understand that his opinion is important, but I think I will resent him if I can't use the name. Particularly that he is a male and I know he will get over it, but I don't think I will.

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    We call our boy something that DP loved that I absolutely hated. He just started calling him that when I was pregnant and eventually I got used to it, and even came to like it because it was something DP liked so much. It's like an affectionate inside joke between us now.

    I plan on naming our next baby something that I want that DP hates, by using the same trick

    Anyway, my point is you could try out the name a bit before the birth and see if your DP actually does warm to it at all?
    Good luck! Names are hard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bigmummahen View Post
    We can't use it as a middle name as its too strong to use as a middle name. He hasn't given valid reasons, just says it's too old fashioned and doesn't like it.

    The thing that annoys me is that he won't suggest other names, or if he does they are names that have been used to death which I would never consider.

    I understand that his opinion is important, but I think I will resent him if I can't use the name. Particularly that he is a male and I know he will get over it, but I don't think I will.
    I don't mean to sound harsh but why is him not liking it or it being old fashioned not a valid reason? If you're vetoing names he comes up with because they're too common, I'm having trouble understanding why that's a more valid reason to dislike a name.

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    No - if my DH legitimately hated a name I wouldn't insist on using it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bigmummahen View Post
    We can't use it as a middle name as its too strong to use as a middle name. He hasn't given valid reasons, just says it's too old fashioned and doesn't like it.

    The thing that annoys me is that he won't suggest other names, or if he does they are names that have been used to death which I would never consider.

    I understand that his opinion is important, but I think I will resent him if I can't use the name. Particularly that he is a male and I know he will get over it, but I don't think I will.
    I know you're probably hating what I'm writing but I think the reasons he's given are valid. I don't have a valid reason for why I don't like the name Eric, I just don't like it (and I genuinely don't). He's said it's old fashioned, and that's a reason I see being used on BH all the time by people for not liking a name.

    Why do you think him being a male has any bearing on him getting over it? I know my DH would never have agreed to a name he hated just because he figured he'd one day get over it, because chances are he would always have resented using the name. We disagreed on many names and ended up just waiting until the boys were born before naming them. We put so much pressure on choosing a name beforehand but there's no need, it can be chosen afterwards. You never know, he might look at the baby and think it looks like the name you've chosen.

    In your defence, he really needs to come up with alternatives and contribute to the discussion. Shutting you down and not engaging in conversation about it is unfair and won't get either of you anywhere.

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    I think both parents need to like the name. I also had a name picked out years ago that I had been dreaming of calling a daughter if I should ever have one - I'm pregnant with a girl and my DP hates the name. I was devastated but put myself in his shoes and thought how awful it would be to have no say in the name of your own child. We kept looking for names and found one we both love.

    Moral of the story is that there are heaps of names and bound to be one you both love!


 

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