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    Default Would you name your child something your husband hates?

    I have a name picked for our baby that I absolutely LOVE. My husband hates it. I know if I don't use it I'm going to regret it and I often cry thinking about it.

    I have asked him whether it will grow on him and he said no.

    I don't know what to do as I know I'm going to be heartbroken if I can't use it and I can't find another name I love as much.

    I know it sounds pathetic, but I've never loved a name so much.. I know my husband should love the name we pick too. Has anyone else been in a similar situation and what was the outcome?

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    Yep. I say use the name you love.

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    I had a name that I absolutely loved too but my husband didn't. I didn't go with it but now I regret it and I hate my husband a bit for it too. So I say go for it!

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    Could you use it as a middle name? I think that as hard as it is, both parents need to agree on the name. They don't have to both love it, but they should both agree on what the name will be.

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    I think you need to go back to the drawing board and find a name you can both agree on. By all means plead your case to your dh, and maybe he will warm to it but your first parenting decision should not be about one overriding the other on something as important as a name.

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    No. If you don't agree on it, it'll just become something he resents you for. His opinion on the name for the child the two of you created is just as valid as yours. Just because you're carrying the baby doesn't make you more entitled. Would he compromise on a variation or using it as a middle name?

    I know you love it and you've got your heart set on it but a) you're pregnant and hormonal (and I'm not writing off your feelings, but never underestimate how hormones can mess with you and make you react more emotionally than rationally) and b) why would you want to name your baby something that its father hates? Doesn't that tarnish it a little?

    I know a couple who had name issues with their firstborn. They argued about it for a couple of years afterwards and it put a huge strain on their marriage. In the end the stronger personality won although it was because the other parent was pretty much over fighting about it and gave in to keep the peace, not because they wanted the name.

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    I had a name that I'd loved for years that dh hated. I tried to talk him around as I really wanted to use it but he wouldn't budge. I tried to put myself in his shoes and then realised I'd feel angry and resentful if he made me name dd a name I hated. So in the end we found a name we both love and now I can't imagine dd being called anything else. I know that's probably not what you want to hear but that's my story.

    Would your dh like the name better as middle name? Or is there a variant of the name which he likes?

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    P.S. any chance you'll tell us the name? Just because I'm nosey....

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    I did. But ex didn't give me any other suggestions or contribute to anything to do with names or even the birth ks I thought "stuff you!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissMuppet View Post
    Could you use it as a middle name? I think that as hard as it is, both parents need to agree on the name. They don't have to both love it, but they should both agree on what the name will be.
    Agree with this 100%


 
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