My heart breaks for you and your DH @mrsmac123
Thanks, its just nice to know you girls know how it feels even if there isnt a lot that can be said. I have just spent so long listening to people who never had a problem with pregnancy talk me through it all with blind optimism, telling me to relax...
@mrsmac123 I went through the RBWH for mine. My Maternal Fetal Medicine Specialist was Dr Greg Duncombe. He's an Associate Professor who also a founding Co-Director at QLD Ultrasound for Women (where I believe he also performs the procedure). He was at the Mater but isn't anymore unfortunately. Bugger!!!
Is the RBWH too far?? You could get a referral to him there. I know when I called QLD Ultrasound for Women early last year to get a price, it was (at the time) $460 for the CVS procedure with $260 back from Medicare and the pathology was between $600-$700 with 2/3rd's refunded from Medicare.
If you like, I'd be happy to make some ph calls this morning at a few places where you can privately have it done to get a price guide. I know you have to have it done between 12-14wks. I'm sorry your family/friends are not being as supportive as they should be, but sometimes people just don't know what to say especially when they've not had to deal with something like that before or know anyone close to them that has.
In saying that, there's no excuse not to offer compassion and love to you both. The comment about the Methotrexate is inaccurate for IF you and DH were to decide to terminate the pregnancy, you could have a D@C performed as long as you weren't past 14 wks.
Of course your DH is devastated as are you Luv. This is a very much wanted baby and he is your son so of course apart of both of you love him no matter what you decide to do if it turns out that the T21 is confirmed. Continuing the pregnancy or ending it is no reflection of your love for him. That is irrelevant IMO.
You are both broken hearted and grieving the possibility of what might be. Let him cry Luv, it's better for you both to get it out together and to tell each other how much this is hurting you both etc.
Let me know what else I can do to helpxoxox
Thankyou you are very kind I dont know what to say I have tried to get into my GP this morning but cannot but have left a message to see if she can squeeze me somwhere. I have a raging headache and not slept.... I am going to call the hospital to see if I can try to get in to see someone today for referral but dont like my chances GP reckons she cant do referral for CVS...yes I need to speed things up for my sanity, for CVS purposes and termination...I believe CVS has a time limit too?
I dont know what to do really I am so broke at the moment I am still trying to pay for the freezing of my embryo and I have just called work and told them I need time off
I just kind of give up I dont have energy to push things anymore or make decisions..DH has gone to work
Sorry I feel like I am hijacking the thread I dont think I should go on any more
@mrsmac123 that is devastating! I feel so much for you & hubby. It is something that is always on my mind on this ivf journey, because of our age I guess it has to be. My best friend has just been through this 4 months ago, and it was extremely hard. Don't feel bad about any of your feelings. And here is the perfect place to vent and cry and complain and feel bad. We are all here to support you. Don't bottle anything up. Get hubby and have a good cry with him. He would be feeling the same as you. I pray that you are the point 3 of a percent that is wrong. But just remember that no matter what happens, you and hubby have each other, and need each other right now. I will be thinking of you xx
No you are not high jacking mrsmac, your situation is an emergency both physically and emotionally. Could you try ringing the counsellor at your ivf clinic urgently and tell her/him you need immediate action. Even get an urgent appointment with the Fertility Specialist for their guidance. You need help and support right now. Please don't be alone all day today. I'll be at work unable to get on the hub but Blonde will be here frequently I hope and she's a wealth of knowledge.
Got a very stern mechanical midwife on the phone at the hospital that said...I have to wait for my appointment monday for referral as it will not change the outcome and there are no doctors there no ifs no buts. I said it might help with the outcome of my mental state though instead of being told yet again I have to wait all the time ...what can I do..shes probably right...it wont make a difference to the outcome ...but it might make a difference to how fast I can move to deal with it but thats not the pigeon hole
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