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    Default IVFers - how do you feel about your embryos?

    We have 1 embryo on ice, left over from our third IVF cycle that gave us DS. I feel really attached to it and feel that it deserves a chance, but we're uncertain about having a third baby.

    How do you feel about your frozen embryos? What do you think you'll do with them?

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    I do feel attached to mine as well. I am currently in my first cycle and am in the middle of my TWW so not sure if I am pregnant but I currently have 10 frozen embies and didn't imagine I would ever have that many. If we are lucky enough to get pregnant in our first cycle, we have 10 to consider - I think we want at least 2 children though. I didn't think I would but do feel instantly attached to them so I know what you mean!

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    Very attached here also. Potentially our family members...

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    Not sure how I feel as we have 8 frosties but now I'm pregnant naturally so even if we want more we may not need to do IVF again. I havnt discussed it in much detail with dh but I have considered donation. I'm pretty sure I would do it if it was just my dna ie eggs but not sure how dh feels. I don't really like the thought of them being wasted though so I think I would also consider donating for research.

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    This is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. We were incredibly lucky & got pregnant from our first FET & am currently 33 weeks pregnant.

    When I first saw the little emby they were transferring, I was instantly attached as I viewed it as potentially our future child. We have 7 more emby's on ice & I feel attached to all of them! Obviously we can't have 7 more children.

    I guess at the end of the day though, we don't know if the others will take when we have another transferred.

    DH doesn't feel the same way, he views them as just cells. He's also happy to donate any we don't use but I don't think I could do that as I'd always be worried about them & what home/family they ended up in.

    Sorry for the long reply but to answer your question I feel very attached to our emby's & don't know what we'll end up doing. It will be a difficult decision though!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rocky27 View Post
    DH doesn't feel the same way, he views them as just cells. He's also happy to donate any we don't use but I don't think I could do that as I'd always be worried about them & what home/family they ended up in.
    This is exactly us. DH doesn't have any attachment at all and considers them just cells and I don't think I could donate as I would just imagine another version of DS walking around out there.

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    Im attached; 1 embryo frozen. im currently pregnant with #3 and this is the last baby. We'd let it succumb definitely not donating

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    Gosh 1 embryo left is hard. I would give it a shot. If it fails at least you tried, if it sticks I doubt you would regret having a third.

    I have 6 blasties left and my family is complete. I can't donate them as they're donor sperm and can only go to ten families. I intend to hold onto them for as long as possible just in case. Then I will let them research on them to increase others chances of success.

    I know someone who received donor embryos and they got a beautiful girl. She could not be more loved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    Gosh 1 embryo left is hard. I would give it a shot. If it fails at least you tried, if it sticks I doubt you would regret having a third.

    I have 6 blasties left and my family is complete. I can't donate them as they're donor sperm and can only go to ten families. I intend to hold onto them for as long as possible just in case. Then I will let them research on them to increase others chances of success.

    I know someone who received donor embryos and they got a beautiful girl. She could not be more loved.
    We conceived our son naturally, then x2 ectopics (now no tubes). We did one cycle of ivf and had 3 embryos make it to blast, DD is the fresh transfer and im pregnant with the first frozen transfer...
    Luckily we have a few years to make ip our minds as long as we're happy to pay for the storage

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    We are finished our family and have 3 frosties left. We can't donate them as we use donor sperm. We will keep them till the boys are 1ish then they will be destroyed. To me they are too close. They are genetically full siblings to our kids so no cant donate them. I would have loved to give my eggs but now im toooo old. Which i dont understand. When we first started ivf i was happy to donate all my embies but now ive seen what they can be and the journey of 8 years ... it changed our opinion.


 

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