For an older sibling to not like their younger sibling? 😢
Ds1 has never been that keen on his little brother, he had never hurt him etc but often tells him to 'go away' and shouts at him, snatches toys away from him etc.
Ds1 is 4 and Ds2 is 16 months.
He was never interested in the pregnancy etc.
Occasionally (very rarely) they play together, and every night ds1 gives ds2 a cuddle and kids goodnight, but during the day he is pretty mean to him
Ds2 doesn't talk yet and he isn't walking, but he does pull himself up to stand holding onto the couch. Ds1 was caught by DH the other day kicking ds2 in the head.
I don't know what to do about it
I feel like all we do is reprimand ds1 for everything. I feel for ds2 as he can't stand up for himself and I feel like I now cannot leave them alone together.
We've tried telling ds1 that ds2 is part of our family and we love him and he loves ds1, we try to teach him to share and not be rough or mean to him, he doesn't listen
We have also tried giving ds1 extra attention but that doesn't seem to make much of a difference.
Every time ds1 goes into his room or the bathroom he closes the door in ds2's face and says he's not allowed in etc. I don't like that because I try and explain that it's not nice to be on the outside all on your own (normally I'm in the room or bathroom with ds1 when he does this.
Is this normal? When does it change?