I can't thank all of you enough for all your thoughts and kind wishes. I think all your good vibes helped because my appointments went really well.
The two surgeons are going to collaborate and do both ops together on December 6th so hernia will be fixed and parathyroid removed in one shebang. The surgeon doing my hernia said he's going to try his best to ensure that my peritoneum isn't compromised and then I can continue with my PD. There's a fair chance that he will need to cut the peritoneum so I probably will need to switch to haemo and have the six weeks in Perth while I heal. That's quite doable though because school and harvest will be just about finished so it will mean only a week or two away from DH and my big two kids.
All in all I'm feeling really positive about it all. Team misskitty can do this!