I'm having some inner struggles coming to terms with a probable c-section. Now I know they are fine most of the time, but I am very much into the old "push 'em out" way.
With both my first and second (both girls, 1 = 3.6kg, 2 = huge 5.2kg) the shoulders got stuck. The first was an early induction (horrible) and I had an epidural. The result was a 3rd degree tear which wasn't pleasant but I recovered pretty well and quickly with not much discomfort. The second was an overdue induction but only gel and breaking waters. She was massive and posterior until she popped out, so it's not surprising her shoulders got stuck also. I had an episiotomy and tore but only 2nd degree so all ok there. But her collar bone broke coming out... something had to give. It never caused her pain, surprisingly. She didn't cry coming out (which frightened me at first but she was perfectly happy and peaceful... wish I could say the same about her now at almost 3 years old!).
I recently had a consult at Canberra Hospital (we live in a rural area about 1h45 from there) and was originally told that if at 34 weeks the scan showed baby a normal size and i was going ok in terms of weight and BP etc then I could probably go to due date and be booked in for an overdue induction if I happen to go over again. Meaning, if I didn't go into labour before then I would be induced in Canberra when overdue.
My local Dr has said she's ok to do a c-section here, but if it is to be a vaginal delivery she wants it to be in Canberra. Basically because the shoulders are likely to be stuck again which can cause all sorts of possible issues.
Anyway, after the Dr at Canberra told me this she went out of the room to consult with the other OBs and when she came back she said he had said I should be booked in for a c-section and not allowed to delivery vaginally. In his opinion.
So at this stage that is the plan. I told myself weeks and weeks ago that if I was advised that c-section was best then that is totally fine with me. But now that it's an actual reality I have been having a hard time accepting it. It's not that I'm afraid. I'm not sure exactly what it is. I have done more reading since then about shoulder dystocia and its risks but also natural ways to help release baby (with positioning). Surely if baby isn't big, it's less of a risk? But the Canberra Dr told me there is no guarantee that a smaller baby wouldn't get stuck also.
I just don't know what to think. I have to either have a very compelling argument to talk to my Dr about next thursday or just get over it and accept a c-section.
Call me insane, but I like to work, and hurt, and push, and struggle to get a baby out. :/ What's wrong with me? At the time, of course, I don't feel like that. Ha! "I can't do this anymore! Just get it out of me!"
Does anyone have any past experience with repeated shoulder dystocia and words of wisdom to share?