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    Default Worried about being disappointed.

    I am a mum of 3 dd's who I love with all my heart and wouldn't changed anything about them and have been blessed with a surprise #4. I am currently 15ish weeks and am
    Not wanting to sounds ungrateful or selfish but I am worried that when we go for the 20 weeks scan if it's another girl that I will be disappointed. Please don't judge me as I know deep down that I would be happy to have another girl but I would love a little boy. Just needed to get it off my chest. Thanks

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    Don't feel like you need to apologise! I'm a mum of 3 boys and if I were to have another I'd be in precisely the same boat as you. I would desperately love a DD but would get a boy for sure. It's totally not about feeling ungrateful for what you have, more about mourning what you don't have. I'll cross everything for you 😊

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    gender disappointment,
    I had it both times with my two little sons but you do get over it most of the time I would love a dd and that ache wont ever go away but I couldnt imagine not having one of my boys for a girl

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    Congrats on baby number 4! I'm a mum of 4 girls so know what it's like to get told the same sex every time.

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    Thank you all for being understanding. I feel like a horrible mother for even thinking like this but I really would love a little boy. The things is my family have 7 little girls and no boys at all so everyone is always saying gee you better make this one a boy and even though I know that everyone will love this baby regardless of its gender. I would love to give my dh and dad a little boy.

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    i adore my two sons but if i fell pregnant Id be similar Its not about the kids you do have its about the one you dont.

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    I totally understand. I have one DS and another DS on the way. That's it for us- definitely no more. I've always wanted a DD, so while I love both my boys, there's still some regret that I'll never get to experience being a mum to a daughter. Don't feel bad!

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    Don't worry about being disappointed. The good thing about finding out the gender at 20 weeks though is that either way you have time to prepare.

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    Just sayin... The odds of it being a girl are really really high. If you have two girls already, the third has a 75% chance of being another girl I believe (I have no statistics to back it up its just what I've heard). So after 3 girls there's an excellent chance of another girl.

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    Another mum of 4 girls here.... when we found out dd4 was a girl at the 20 week scan (after being told she was a he at an earlier scan), i lost my shiz completely. I cried for days. But slowly I came round to the idea (sort of, with the quiet hope the 20 week scan was wrong). But the moment she was born I was in love. I still get sad knowing we will never have a son but i wouldn't change my 4 girls for anything.


 

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