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    Thrilled you are okay xx

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    Hun are you sure you are ok? 8 doors down? How is bub to be? Have you had enough time to work through your anguish and regain your strength? Have you known your new DP for long? If not are you sure you're not moving from one bad situation to another? I don't mean to be a negative nancy - just worried about you. Xx

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    I haven't known him very long but my best friend grew up with him she swears he is lovely I've known him around 4 months now so I know it's fast but he is so kind and gentle he started out as my housemate. Unfortunately I lost Bub to be they said most likely due to the stress and abuse. He has refused to take the children this weekend because I wouldn't stay for a coffee this had me absolutely frustrated.

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    Just another update the IVO didn't work so I went to the police station last night to report the three separate incidents that I could remember the dates of two of those being in the last 48 hours they've upgraded the IVO to include the children which is sad but they said it was necessary to keep them safe with me. He will be charge with assault with out causing bodily harm damage to my property and misuse of a mobile phone which is a commonwealth offence he had been charged for in the past because he did the same thing with his ex harassing and abusive calls after an IVO was in place last time he got 120 hours of community service this time he is looking at jail time 😔 I didn't want it to come to this I thought we may have been able to remain friends for the children but he has hurt me to many times to even keep count of.

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    Default Leaving an abusive partner

    glad you're safe.

    I have to say I share VP's concerns about the new DP. I'm glad you've met someone new who seems great but is it not too soon after the abusive ex to be thinking about such serious commitment like getting engaged? I assume you're living together but would it not be better to take some time and just date this guy a bit before having him live in your home and become enmeshed in your life and you kids?

    not trying to be a Debbie downer but it's ringing alarm bells slightly over here.

    I wish you all the best xx
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    Quote Originally Posted by LiterallyNoOne View Post
    Just another update the IVO didn't work so I went to the police station last night to report the three separate incidents that I could remember the dates of two of those being in the last 48 hours they've upgraded the IVO to include the children which is sad but they said it was necessary to keep them safe with me. He will be charge with assault with out causing bodily harm damage to my property and misuse of a mobile phone which is a commonwealth offence he had been charged for in the past because he did the same thing with his ex harassing and abusive calls after an IVO was in place last time he got 120 hours of community service this time he is looking at jail time 😔 I didn't want it to come to this I thought we may have been able to remain friends for the children but he has hurt me to many times to even keep count of.
    I'm glad your safe but please take it slowly for your children's sake.

    I'm glad your putting orders in place. Do the kids need counselling? Yourself too? Esp after losing Bub. You must be feeling a whole heap of emotions good luck and I hope everything goes well

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    Quote Originally Posted by LiterallyNoOne View Post
    Just another update the IVO didn't work so I went to the police station last night to report the three separate incidents that I could remember the dates of two of those being in the last 48 hours they've upgraded the IVO to include the children which is sad but they said it was necessary to keep them safe with me. He will be charge with assault with out causing bodily harm damage to my property and misuse of a mobile phone which is a commonwealth offence he had been charged for in the past because he did the same thing with his ex harassing and abusive calls after an IVO was in place last time he got 120 hours of community service this time he is looking at jail time 😔 I didn't want it to come to this I thought we may have been able to remain friends for the children but he has hurt me to many times to even keep count of.
    Sorry Hun xxx do you think your ex will behave now? Do you still leave right near him - if so can you move? Maybe jail time is what he needs to get help and change and to be a good dad. In the meantime look after yourself and the kids and don't look back xx

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    Big hugs xx

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    I've had to move 8.5 hours away from my ex DP. I can understand all of your concerns about my new DP but we have been living together for around 3.5 months now he was my housemate before we decided to try a relationship. He just gets nicer and nicer every day he is so helpful with the children and with making sure I always have everything I need before himself. I know it's not been very long but I am still yet to see a bad side of him. He is so open he doesn't hide anything all of his friends are the same I'm starting to think it's because they are all farm boys that grew up in towns of less than 600 hundred people. Everybody I've spoken to also don't have a bad thing to say. I believe I just got extremely lucky when I met him 😊 I have expressed my concerns with him and we are always talking about my past to help me through it. I have anxiety attacks in my sleep apparently but he gently wakes me and helps me through that. Of course I understand as with anybody he does have flaws haha none seem to be so terrible yet. I think the worst thing is that when he works it's in harvesting and the work for hours and hours and days at a time the best part about that though is that myself and the children will occasionally get to see him at work and see what he does we will all love that because we are all very much country people too 😊

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