I have been with my partner now for 5.5 years. For 4.5years of that he has been physically and emotionally abusive. We have 2 children together and 1 on the way. He has recently started getting upset with the kids very easily and I think the time has come to leave. He never wanted children, and constantly tells the to bugger off and he can't stand them among other things. He tells me he is leaving regularly then never goes. He never apologises and blames me for everything going wrong in his life. I try to make it easy on him I look after the kids mostly alone I take them everywhere with me he rarely comes and when he does he whines the entire time so it's just easier to leave him home. Recently I thought things where getting better until I found him emailing another women he claims it was for my benefit because she has a child the same age as our youngest. I'm not so stupid and saw straight thought that big fat lie. I've had enough yet I'm scared of hurting him. No matter what he does to me or our children I know he loves us and can't stand o be with out us. But I can't live like this anymore I've already left I'm staying with family but he still thinks I'm coming home. I don't know how to tell him I'm not. The physical abuse I've suffered from him has affected my mental health but the emotional abuse has affected my confidence this is the reason I stayed so long. How do I tell him he won't be a part of my life anymore but he can still see his children. I'm scared for what he will do. Will he stalk us? Will he harm himself? Will he harm us? I'm so scared to stay and even more scared to leave. After any reassurance and advice as to how I can make this easier on us all. Thanks.