Children has a unique way of testing and changing you as a person sometimes it brings you closer sometimes further apart. Ex-h and I were closer after #1 and much much further apart after #2. Her birth was traumatic and with no support I lost myself, went back to work early and chose to ignore life. I got help, left the relationship and moved on. Now being in a new relationship I can see a million red flags in hindsight that our marriage was always doomed regardless of if we had, had children or not. There was no balance or equality. I was the head of the household and decision maker, I kept us together so when I couldn't cope and he didn't step up there was nothing left of the relationship.
Now with my new man. I was sick this morning and he told me to get back in bed and he would take the kids to daycare ❤️❤️❤️